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the ages of 30 and 38, we should meet.

According to this article anyway:

How Birth Order Affects Your Love Life

Want some fresh insight into your love personality? Forget about whether you’re a Leo, Pisces or Aquarius; instead, consider whether you’re a first-born, middle child, or baby of the family. If you want to understand how you operate in every kind of relationship, “understanding birth order is a lifesaver,” stresses psychologist Kevin Leman, Ph.D., author of The Birth Order Book. Read on for more insight into your love life:

If you’re an oldest child...
It’s no coincidence that most U.S. Presidents were first-borns, because this is the sign of natural leaders. You’re a take-charge person, so not the type to drive friends and romantic partners crazy asking questions like, “I dunno where we should eat; where do you want to go?” Instead, you’ll make sure you have reservations — and land a prime table, too. And anyone lucky enough to pair up with you won’t spend weeknights wondering whether he or she has Saturday night plans, because “oldest kids are planners,” says Dr. Leman. You’re also old-fashioned (in a good way). You always come through on anniversaries and Valentine’s Day.
Your love challenge: Being more spontaneous. First-borns aren’t the “seize the day” sort (you’re not one to text your sweetie to suggest meeting at this fun café you just walked past). Likewise, “you hate surprises,” Dr. Leman warns. Pity the fool who springs meeting the parents on you or when you thought it was just the two of you going out tonight!
Best match: The youngest child. “It’s a case of opposites attracting,” says Dr. Leman. “You help the last-born be more organized, and the last-born helps you lighten up.”

If you’re a middle child...
Contrary to their reputation as insecure messes (example: Jan Brady), middle kids actually make stable and loyal partners. “One thing you’re not is spoiled,” Dr. Leman says. You probably grew up feeling like you got less attention than your siblings, and that drives you to work for every perk — including a happy relationship. Also in the “positives” category: You’re “a compromiser and negotiator,” Dr. Leman notes, so you’ll give your partner plenty of say in everything from how quickly your relationship progresses to where you go on vacation together. And your romance should be free of daily petty squabbles (middles hate conflict); instead, you try to put others at ease.
Your love challenge: Opening up. Have you ever been told you’re hard to read? “Middle children can be very secretive,” says Dr. Leman. “They got hammered by the first-born and swindled by the baby, so they keep their cards close to their chests.” You’re also not the best communicator when you’re upset. But if you learn to speak up instead of holding your anger in, you’ll have a more harmonious relationship.
Best match: Youngest child. “Middles aren’t as threatened by last-borns as they are by exacting first-borns,” says Dr. Leman, so the odds are good for open communication.

If you’re a youngest child...
You’re all about fun. The most outgoing of all in the birth order spectrum, youngest children live to have a good time (it may be because your parents were more laid-back by the time you came along). On a typical first date you’ll have your date laughing so hard that water shoots out his or her nose. In fact, “most famous comedians are youngest children,” says Dr. Leman. A partial list of famous examples: Jon Stewart, Jim Carrey, Ellen DeGeneres, Steve Martin and Eddie Murphy. And forget ho-hum plans like dinner and a movie; you love to do the unexpected, often on the spur of the moment. You’re the type to take someone to a party only to whisper, “Let’s get out of here” two minutes later... and then convince your date to take a road trip to Atlantic City or Vegas for the weekend.
Your love challenge: “Babies are the least financially dependable,” warns Dr. Leman (it comes from being, well, taken care of all your life). That means your date may be stuck picking up the tab when your credit card is maxed out. Also, some youngest children — not you, of course! — use that last-born charm and charisma to be a bit, ahem, manipulative, says Dr. Leman. That breed of baby will leave a date and sneak off to hit golf balls with pals or something similar, leaving the other person wondering what happened.
Best match: Either the oldest child (they serve as a good counterbalance in a parent-child sort of way) or middle child (they value friendships, so they totally understand why you love being the life of the party).

If you’re an only child...
You’re a rock-solid citizen — and a sweetie. “Only children are super-reliable,” Dr. Leman says. “They’re like oldest children taken to the extreme.” Growing up with only adults made you into a little grown-up early on — meaning you’re serious and dependable. You’re the rare person who will stay up half the night helping a friend or partner prep for a licensing exam or a big work presentation. You’re the type to move your partner’s car so he or she doesn’t get a ticket. Punctual and true to your word, onlies like you never leave a loved one waiting for a call or email. And you’re articulate, too, so your date can expect great conversations that really make a person think.
Your love challenge: Admit it — you’re a bit of a perfectionist. Maybe you send back steaks that aren’t cooked just so or point out a teeny-tiny stain on your date’s sweater. Also, you’re so cautious and pragmatic that you can be very slow to act (i.e., someone else has to make the first move).
Best match: Youngest child, because you balance each other out. The baby of the family adds spontaneity and romance, while you make sure you two aren’t dining by candlelight because the electric bill never got paid.

Lisa Lombardi has written for Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Shape and other publications. A classic middle child, she is happy to have picked a fun-loving last-born mate.

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Does this mostly hold true in your case, as far as personalities and love challenges?

saw this on yahoo....

thought it was dumb..full of generalizations

but if it helps someone...cool i guess?

That's where I got it from.

But tell me one thing. What do you really think of the article?

It was on yahoo? I remember this from the 80's. My mother loved this book and all its gross generalizations. Then she could dismiss everybody she met by categorizing them by birth order.

I'm a baby but I presume all the personality traits of a first born. Leman makes no sense and often digs for evidence that only supports his claims.

If you want to snuggle with some pop-psychology, I'd recommend The Five Love Languages. It's been the most useful of everything that I've read.

<---What about a war child (or more accurately child born during war)?

Sorry. Leman's pop-psychology is only for suburbanite Americans with nothing better to do than replace astrology with another random way to generalize individuals.

sort of like horoscopes this I think, i'm the youngest and I'm never out going.

still fun.

That's why I avoid women magazines like the plague

Noooo.....I need to know if I can date Ether

Oh anyways....I still need about 1 year.

Well I am the youngest so I focused on that area of the article.

I am not outgoing, I would never take a date to a party, I like the typical date- just eating out somewhere.
Also if I did (never will) take a date to a party I wouldn't leave two minutes late...well maybe I might because I realized how dumb of an idea it was.

I didn't think any of those comedians were funny.

I do like road trips but mostly by myself. (Meaning I wouldn't try and convince someone to go because of the preference for solitude)

I am the least financially stable, and I was probably taken better care of financially by my parents then my brothers.
But with that said, if I take a girl out on a date- I am paying. We might go to a restaraunt I have found to have decent prices.

I'm probably more as the middle child description maybe.

This what you wanted? Not sure =/

I didn't like the article, wasn't helpful.

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My favorite brother is a youngest child and he refuses to talk to nearly everyone besides me...and a few girls. Outgoing is not him. Doing things spur of the moment is not him. In fact he rarely wants to do anything besides play wii and go out on our dad's boat.

My middle brother IS an unstable whack job. Though I probably shouldn't say that about him today because he kissed my ass because I spray painted some things for him and they turned out amazing.

I don't think I fit the middle child description there, not that I expected to.

who actually has the time to write all of this

I cancelled my subscription to Seventeen when I was thirteen. I remember thinking, "what is this s**t?" I will read ANYTHING else in a waiting room, even Car & Driver, rather than pick up a women's magazine.

I've gotten make-up, hair and clothing tips from women's magazines because I wasn't born with an individual sense of style nor did I develop one along the way; so, I needed some easy help to figure out what was comfortable and acceptable in the mainstream. The sex and relationship tips are absolutely laughable. One of those fabulous randomly numbered amount of tips to "turn of your man" told people to light candles. What?! When do men need a dim romantic ambiance to feel frisky?!

If you’re a youngest child...
You’re all about fun. The most outgoing of all in the birth order spectrum, youngest children live to have a good time (it may be because your parents were more laid-back by the time you came along). On a typical first date you’ll have your date laughing so hard that water shoots out his or her nose. In fact, “most famous comedians are youngest children,” says Dr. Leman. A partial list of famous examples: Jon Stewart, Jim Carrey, Ellen DeGeneres, Steve Martin and Eddie Murphy. And forget ho-hum plans like dinner and a movie; you love to do the unexpected, often on the spur of the moment. You’re the type to take someone to a party only to whisper, “Let’s get out of here” two minutes later... and then convince your date to take a road trip to Atlantic City or Vegas for the weekend.

The part in bold is kind of right, but probably not for the reasons the author had in mind. It's a bad match to my personality. Sure, I've cracked people up with my clowning, but I'm definitely not all about fun. It doesn't come to order you see......in fact mostly it doesn't come at all. The most outgoing of all??? Only on a red letter day. Love to do the unexpected? Strange, I thought I was a creature of routine and order with the occasional moment of rash impulsiveness.

Crock of s**t.