should weight be an issue?

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i guess it depends from person to person, huh? I loved the photo of the girl who labelled herself as "full-figured" on OkCupid. And I often consider myself a fan of the full-figured type.

But I saw a full body pic of her she sent by email, and I felt like she was trying to hide her body with the type of clothes she was wearing. I know, it was just one photo, and I don't know if she always dresses this way. But, then I think of what people will think of her.... way down the line if she would ever become my girlfriend. I'm probably way overthinking this right now.... but I can't help it! aah!

Plus her brother has a boyfriend, and I wonder how my parents would think of a girl who is either gay or bi, and I shouldn't think that way.

Yes, it does contrary to nice guy belief determine the quality of the sex to a degree.

An object in motion will remain in motion, basic physics.

240lb girl on top of you = pain (unless your name is Wolverine, Hulk, Juggernaut, etc.)
120lb girl on top of you = fun

Its a personal preference thing. If you are not attracted to larger women you should not have to pursue them. HOWEVER, if you are married or in love, I think gaining weight is a poor reason to go off someone even if you prefer them thinner, you could just encourage them to lose weight and express your feelings.

Once upon a time, I dated a chubby chaser. He wasn't really that into me because I was thin and refused to put on weight... BUT we had a lot of music and comics and morbid geek stuff in common. It wasn't every day that he ran into a girl who knew about Lenore. We ended up breaking up, obviously. YEARS later, after I'd had my last baby and was a hippo, my husband and I were in IHOP after seeing a movie at a nearby theatre. I hear my name called out like a question from across the room. It's that guy! So we chatted for a bit - no big deal. He sent me a message via Livejournal confessing how he thought I looked so hot now that I've finally put some meat on my bones. I thought it was funny because I had spent the past few months hating my body for being so big. Here was someone who thought it was an improvement!

For that guy, sex was better with a fat girl. The fatter, the better. His wife is huge. He adores her. Weight matters for him.

Then I know guys who think fat girls are gross. There seems to be a greater population and social acceptance for guys who are like that than for chubby chasers. I don't know any women who develop eating disorders because they just aren't big enough to please men, so I'm left to conclude that the discrimination against women for being fat based on the general preference for thin women has had a greater negative impact on women in our society.

People should be attracted to the people whom they're attracted to naturally. There should not be social conditioning that leads us to believe thin is beautiful and fat is not. Chubby chasers should not be considered a fetish. While I don't want to begrudge men for a preference toward thin women, I do think it's important for them to really analyze why they have that preference in the first place and if it's genuine. Additionally, they have to realize that their preference for thin women does not justify abusive and discriminating behavior toward fat women. Don't date them but don't call them names, make faces at them, make jokes about them (to their face or behind their backs), or continue to stereotype them.

Weight can be an issue as much as eye color or smile or voice or the size of a nose can be issues. But... well... I like men with blue eyes. Not all blue eyed men but generally I prefer blue eyes. I'm not going to waste my time bad-mouthing people with brown or green eyes or making fun of them. That would be stupid. So, I suggest that any man who prefers thin women just make sure he's not being stupid about the women who are a weight that he does not prefer. In other words, grow up.

each man can have his own preference and decide if weight is an issue or not.

I personally prefer women who have some meat on their bones and are on the slimmer side, but not fat or anorexic looking.

somehow I'm not appreciating all the jokes.... this is pretty serious issue with me. But don't worry, I'm not offended.