Soppy sickly text messages from your new man/woman?

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I've had about 6 boyfriends since I was 17, but I ended up being the one to want to finish the relationship because of the text messaging. I used up over 20 pounds worth of credit within a week, because of keep on having to reply back, and if I didn't he would ask if I'm OK, until I did text back. It all got too much and too boring, and the soppiness got so intense that I ended up going off the man even more.
For example if I told them if I was feeling bothered about something, it was always like, ''don't worry babe I'm here for you. I love you, you know I do....'' and so on. I don't mind a bit of that, but every 2 minutes of the day.....it got too much. I really didn't like to tell them, if you know what I mean. I felt very awkward, and thought it was best just to finish it and be friends, which was easier than having to tell them not to send me soppy messages.
I don't like to say it's an Aspie thing because I know a few NTs who have finished relationships because of this same reason. Once when I was in one of the relationships, I felt very depressed but in a strange way. Then when I said that I just wanted to be friends, I felt much more better. I also felt free.

Does anyone feel like this? (This applies to NTs too).

I understand that not all people like the mushy stuff, to my knowledge successful relationships are made from being able to communicate and accept each others needs and wants. Being able to say to a partner that you don't really like the mushy stuff may have resulted in a more comfortable relationship.

Personally, I like mushy stuff but I find it difficult to respond and reciprocate properly.