Anyone else feel like there isnt a type of girl that would..

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suit them because of their extreme uniqueness?

(i'm really bad at putting whats in my brain down in black and white so if someone understands what i'm trying to get at and can re-word this question better for me then please do so. thanks!)

I feel like that, about men. Not cause I'm "unique", but because I'm insufferable.

If you mean how it's probably easier to meet people who you can relate to and/or find you un-objectionable, if you're a normal person with a normal life -- then I'd say, "yes" I feel like that's true, and that I'm not going to get to take advantage of that. The oddballs have much reduced chances of bumping into each other, I think. Not everyone gets to surf the crest of the bell curve into a normal life.

I was probably wrong.

Last edited by Nim on 30 Apr 2011, 9:36 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Well put.

I feel i'd be very tough to live with and put up with.

I feel that is my curse in life. I have some very nerdy hobbies, and interests. And loads of space in my house is taken up with my huge DVD collection (big movie fan), ditto with CDs and old vinyl records, videogames, action figures, books, etc. I'm a big collector.

No girl wants to put up with me.

I actually used to feel like that back then thinking I would never be able to find one that is just right for me regardless.
I don't really think about it as such nowadays and its not really a main priority I think about nowadays.

I fear that all the time. I mean, bad enough to be an Aspie, but that I'm very adamant about not having kids, both because I cannot bear to be around them, and because I don't want to pass my genes on and have a kid like me, or worse a full blown special needs Autie...together, I fear I'm simply damaged goods no woman would ever, ever want.

yea I feel my aspie drawbacks are a bit too strong. My loneliness in recent months have made it feel like there's no one out there who is compatible with me. But I do think that there is someone for everyone. The problem is that not everyone is looking at the same time, and even if they were, most people don't know what to look for.

I have aspie drawbacks that are bad enough. But in addition to the things I can't help are things that I probably can, but have so ingrained them into my psyche and my actions over the years that it'll take a lot to undo the damage. Most of these things have been in some ways a reaction to my crappy upbringing by an abusive aspie, and others were a reaction to how people around react to my aspie-ness... it's bad.



I fear having children for just that very reason. Im sort of in a family where 2 of my syblings have aspergers, but with less severe symptoms, my mom sort of has it, and my dad and his brother definitely have it, so it does run in my blood.

I, however, look to have children, even if it's not with another women. There's a lot of children out there who grow up in a less-then-ideal home and I was very fortunate to come up in a loving home, I'd love nothing more then to offer that to someone whose lost their parents or were given up for adoption.

Whenever I find one something terrible happens and I lose them. I'm cursed. Which is why I no longer date.

Yes. I would put "unique" in quotation marks. See the following image:

Why do you feel being an Aspie is a curse? You're passing yourself off as "defective", that your defective genes you'd never want to pass on to children if you were to have them? Granted, AS has it's pitfalls and difficulties, it's trials and tribulations, but it also has it's blessings and gifts. What everyone needs to do, both Aspie and neurotypical alike, is accept other people for who they are. So what if you have a collection of DVD movies or vinyls? Who cares what other people think of that? Did I care what people thought of me when I carried my basket of coffee and tea around with me everywhere I went, or showed everyone my collection of wooden door stops? No, not one bit! I got so much happiness from my obscure collections and interests. I just kept on trucking, no matter who would give me strange looks. I felt the same way then and still feel that way now.

I use expensive Cisco enterprise routers and switches at home. I spent a lot of money on them, but I did because I enjoy them. I love my Cisco routers and switches, I love my commercial satellite receivers and QAM modulators. Peers my age are into cars or motorcycles, or sports, or whatever. I'm into what I'm into, and I'm proud to be. I'll gladly slow anyone my cable tv equipment to anyone willing to listen to me explain in detail how everything works and is hooked up. I'm not embarrassed or ashamed, and I think all Aspies should feel the same way.



This image is very offensive to me. It saying that I'm not useful in society. I'm taking what it says literally, but I still find it offensive.

I can tell you I am unique, or weird, or odd, or different, or whatever you want to call it. When I should have been collecting baseball cards I was collecting tea, coffee, and laundry detergent. When I should have been playing with action figurines I was playing with junction boxes, light sockets, BX wiring, and taking things apart. When I should have been playing baseball outside I was looking at things under my microscope outside, or growing stuff in a jar, or building this crazy contraption with stuff I found outside. And you know what, I enjoyed all this stuff, I had fun, and I never hurt anyone or myself. I love electronics, and I hope to have an engineering job someday. I hope that the talents and skills I was given can be used to change the world for the better. I'm a firm believer that everyone has something to bring to the table, no matter how unique you are.

I feel like no girl would give me a chance because I'm so unique, different weird, awkward ect

Being that we live in a society that's not willing to do anything about that anymore its barely worth bringing up. I think most people who are in that situation fundamentally know it by now.

You described my situation perfectly.

When I meet someone, I'm either too this or not enough that. And when someone does accept me, I either screw it up or, in some cases, they accept me for the wrong reasons. For the most part, I'm a 35 year old stuck in a 23 year olds body. Considering how immaturity is glorified today, I don't stand much of a chance. I've always said that I have to wait for other people to catch up with me, and although I have a lot of growing up to do, it's still accurate to say that.