How to Say I Love You

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Hi.
I wanted advice on something.
About 6 months ago, I met a boy who is about one year older than I am (I am 13.)
We began to get along quite well, and eventually, I discovered I have feelings for him.
This is the most in love I have ever been. Even though I see him more than once a week, I am anxious to see him again. My heart skips a beat whenever I see him. I feel like this is more than a crush.
The thing is, I am quite sure he is an Aspie like me, and I was wondering if anybody knew of a way to tell him how I feel, so that he can get the message.

Honestly, I'm not sure you should do anything. Thirteen is very young, and we aspies do have a tendency to overdo things emotionally. If you do decide to say something, just be careful. You have your whole life ahead of you, after all.

Not to burst your bubble, but the butterflies aren't love. Love is a serious thing, it's not something you feel when you have it. It's something you feel when you don't. Love is what remains after the butterflies are gone, yet you still have a need to be with that person. It sounds like you like this boy and have a crush/infatuation with him. Could this develop into love? Maybe yes, it's a seed and if it's watered and fertilized it will grow.
If he is an aspie he'll most likely not know how to respond if you tell him that you are interested in him. I can recall a few time being around that age where sudden unexpected interest from a girl would just make me shut down, and I would use my default response of "no" because I didn't have time to think.
My suggestion would be to warm up to him slowly, so he is more prepared for the idea. Since you've been around him so much he may already have an idea. Also you have to think about at 13 and 14 where do you want this relationship to go? A lot is going to change in both your lives over the next few years.
My suggestion for actually telling him would be a letter. That way he has time to regroup himself.

I suggest subtle things. Maybe you can touch him gently, offer a hug, maybe at some point even take his hand. That would be exhilarating, I think. he might freeze up, but that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Also, a note telling him how you really like him and everything sounds like a good idea.

I wish you the best of luck!

I think you should wait until you're actually in a relationship with him. Good luck.

I would straight out say "I have some feelings for you that are more then i should feel for a simple friend. If you like me in a romantic way please tell me now so i can get these feelings out of my head and we can act as friends without any sub-contexts."

I was always to the point though.

No offence; but i highly doubt you're in love at 13.

100% this, although it is very easy to get crushes at that age, there is a major difference.

Oh definitely. A crush for sure, which is lovely and perfect, but i think bandying around terms like Love at such an age isn't good.

You say "I". Then you say "Love". Then you say "You". That's all there is to it.

Even if it's only butterflies, it's the most butterflies I've ever had in my life. This is the first time I liked a guy for more than the fact that I wanted to rip his clothes off (silly pervy me ).
I think that there's a major possibility that I could eventually fall into true love with him.
*sigh* These are the times when all the advice you read in Seventeen magazine goes down the drain.


And thank you for dumbing it down.

There is no correlation between the emotions you can feel and the number of birthdays you've had.



This. Just say it if that's how you really feel.

There is between emotional maturity though, for the most part.
When I looked back on guys I 'loved' when I was a teenager.. I most certainly didn't love them like I thought I did at the time.

edit; then again, i can't speak for the OP, she may have much more maturity than I did at that age.

Last edited by emlion on 31 Mar 2011, 10:37 am, edited 1 time in total.

Then your experience with people you had feelings for as a teenager wasn't good, clearly. But that doesn't go for everyone.

damn you were quick.
i edited just before i saw your reply. >.<

agreed with your point.