The opposite sex, as a special interest?

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I just had this thought today: would you consider the opposite sex in general as a special interest of yours? Would you consider interacting with/talking to the opposite sex as a special interest?

As much as Aspies are supposed to have difficulty with initiating relationships (especially if it's a male having to initiate contact with a female), does this interest help you in the dating game? Does your interest in the opposite sex per se make up for social difficulties?

I would say I'm very interested in the local girls around here, and it has certainly helped here because I find I'm certainly willing to talk to them, even if it doesn't always come easy.

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I'm only interested in sex and porn. I've finally gotten an appointment with a psychiatrist now to see if I can take some kind of medication to lower my sex drive.

Hmmmm...

Depends. If things are quiet with my work and research, or if I'm tired of it for a while and re-charging myself, my interest tends to focus on the opposite sex, yes.

I also find it somehow easier to befriend women - and most of the more or less intimate friendships I've had were with women. Even if no sex is or is going to be involved (as it usually isn't), I think that perhaps I need the sexualized "charge" of the situation to do the effort to be social, keep up contact, etc. I find this difficult to do with male friends and acquaintances.

It's not helping very much in the dating game, since I am confused and insecure enough that the other side needs to be really determined and quite literally spell it out for me what she wants. She better have a good sense of humour, then, too

sure i guess anyone can try to make friends with a girl and repeat the process over and over again until they're good at it.

I'd say so.

At my stage in life, I could very easily consider sex to be my special interest.

men and dating have long been a perseveration of mine.

Oh, god, yes, it's horrible. My crushes are always so horribly obsessive! I can't stop thinking about the poor souls I become attracted to or enamored with. Oh well--at least I never am like, "Duuuuude I soooo wanna have sex with her." Some guys have their crushes be sexual, and I'm so glad that mine are never sexual at all.

An interesting idea Keeno, and the short answer is YES DEFINITELY!

Like all ASD/AD's I find socialising difficult and spend virtually all my time on my own, however when I do have an opportunity to be in company, the company of just one or two people works best. Larger groups are too much to cope with and I am unable to join in their conversation.

One to one company works best of all 'cos their is no competion for joining in. I ALWAYS meet male friends out somewhere, usually for a beer, whereas I normally see female friends at home (mine or theirs). It just seems to work out that way.

Female company therefore tends to be more intimate as it is in private, although it is mostly quite innocent chat over a cup of tea or glass of wine. However I am always open to the possibility of more!

I guess like many Aspies my love life is not impressive, so seeking out the opportunity of a little romance is definitely an interest, but not the obsession it used to be!