Dating a girl with Asperger's, what do I expect?

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Hi there. I know there have already been some threads on the site about this sort of thing but I'd just like some advice. I'm an NT and have been dating a girl with AS (diagnosed) for about 2 years now. I really love her but I'm not sure how to deal with some aspects of our relationship. Any suggestions would really be appreciated. She tends to go through these periods in which she'll completely ignore me and then out of the blue suddenly start talking to me again as if nothing has happened. She also recoils a lot when I hug her which could indicate sensory problems but seems quite happy hugging her friends. When I've broached the prospect of going a little further with our relationship, she's keen right until she finds an excuse. I really love her, so if anyone has any ideas to explain some of these things or suggestions. I'd like that.
Thank you.

Not really sure what to suggest, seems a lot of people post about this sort of thing. Its hard to say what she wants, just now you have to decide if its working out for you or not and if you've tried everything.

Based on your explanation it seems that she likes but not in the way of physical attachment.let her give some more time to fit for that.she may feel shy or something when you hug her.she wan't really feel anything if she hug her friends.

You should ask her directly. She's the most qualified to answer your questions. I doubt she would pass up an opportunity to help you understand her better.
As for the hugging part, maybe, just maybe, it actually means she feels comfortable enough not to hide her reaction from you. Personally, I pretend it doesn't bother me when I receive a hug from a friend. When my family tries to hug me I just tell them to f**k off. They know it really means "I love you"

By "going a little further" I suspect you mean sex, and from the description of how she doesn't want to hug you a lot, I think she is not really into sex a lot, so pressuring her there could end badly. Also, make sure you use firm hugs.