The girl of my dreams

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It was just under two years ago that I entered college. Up until this point I ad never kissed a girl or even gone on a date. I had pretty much resigned myself to never having a girlfriend. In college I met a beautiful girl. She was quiet, sweet, athletic, and for some reason she took a liking to me. She kissed me, and despite the fact that I did absolutely everything wrong during the dating process, she eventually became my girlfriend. She taught me how to love both physically and emotionally. I thought it would last forever.

We've been going out for a year and a half now and everything has changed. about 6 months ago she stopped being intimate with me. She once confided in me that she felt we were spending too much time together and it was preventing us from having friends and making her depressed. She is NT and fully capable of socializing. She doesn't drink though and prefers to hang out with guys rather than girls. This somewhat limits her options. I simply am too awkward too connect to 99% of people. I felt like I was losing her. Having no other friends in college, I decided to transfer. On the last day of school she told me that she saw me more as a best-friend than a boyfriend and that she wanted a break. She says that hopefully her attraction to me will return. We are still technically together for now and we agreed to not date other people. She says she doesn't want anybody else. I don't really understand what this break means tbh.

I am devastated. I can't afford to lose her. I want to cancel m transfer, but I feel like coming back would be worse for our relationship. At least by transferring it will allow her to spend time making friends (even if they are all gonna be guys) so she can become happy again. I don't know what to do. I can't even imagine a world we we don;t spend the rest of our lives together. I am absolutely clueless about how I can make this right. Any advice?

This is what it means: It's not anything you've said or done, or the way you've acted. She's just not feeling it anymore. Attraction comes and goes with the subtlety of a frying pan to the face.

Just try and meet new friends and spend all your time with them. Sh'es more likely to come back if she sees you having fun with others as opposed to being alone sad and mopey.

Good luck, hope it works out.

After you've spent some time apart, talk to her about how you feel. If she really is the one for you, she will try to understand.

Unfortunately when you are young relationships inevitably come to an end, its part of the learning and growing process, yes, it hurts like a bastard but its also normal.

Ever wonder why she chose you? Things like that don't randomly happen. In spite of your opinion of yourself, its obvious others beg to differ. Quiet, sweet athletic girls don't randomly choose any schmo in spite of what you think of yourself. And keeping up a relationship for two years, that doesn't just happen at random either. That all bodes well.