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I am 23 years old and i never had sex,the most i did with girls was to dance with them in a party.I am extremelly gorgeous(10 out of 10),heard many compliments,many girls were watching me,my face,but i never dated or had a girlfriend.I don't know if it is because they know i am different or have AS.Also it doesn't help that i am alone most of the time in my home.I find it ridiculous someone with my beauty never had while everyone is having since they are 11.What to do?

More and more I think it's down to "scent". Not cologne or perfume. I scoffed at this once when someone suggested this but I think it's true. There's is something about the aspie brain that doesn't make a body phernome that attracts NT friends and/or NT lovers. No matter how much social skills training I had or good looks, I could never really get a grasp on the things other people had. People don't want to think this because it makes us seem like animals but in essence, we are. I think that aspies find each other but screw it up because of all the bad experiences they had with NT's. They expect to be treated like crap and then actually throw away the really nice time they could have with another compatible aspie. Aspies "smell out" other aspies but screw it up because they base everything on the ideals of the NT world. A lot of people lie about their sexual escapades! It's not like they're going to invite you to watch. Cheer up. Try to have a relationship first...the physical will eventaully follow.

Well, I'm an aspie and if I'm putting out the wrong scent it never hurt my sex life! I have wondered if I'm putting out the right scent or some signal that I don't intend. I am not a 10 out of 10, especially on regular trips to the grocery store ect. Yet I still get followed, approached, ect. That girl you long to meet won't come knocking at your door. Looks is only one part of it.

How can i can have a relationship?I wait for the girl to approach,i am way too shy to approach.It's a shame since i am way too handsome and even girls watch me and are friendly with me.Also when i go to stores they watch me,how can they resist to watch such beauty?Some girl even gave me two free tickets to buy fast food in a Gas station,i only put 15 euros(25 euros they give you 1 ticket)and she gave me.It is embarrasing,is it really discrimination or my fault?I mean everybody,even average and ugly and fat(not offensive)have girls.Even one who has something wrong with his brain and is on antidepressants and is different in general,is banging while me?I only listen to Brian Eno and smoke.

You will have to get over the shyness to some degree. Some girls like the complicated mind of someone who differs from mainstream. Your aspiness doesn't have to keep you alone. You will have to sieze one of the opportunities when a girl shows intrest. Talk to her, ask her name, ask if you can call her sometime, or get coffee, or... anything! You have to make some kind of move for a girl to know you reciprocate her feelings of wanting to look at you and possibly get to know one another. So what if you make an ass of yourself? What have you got to loose?

Will they accept me if they learn that i am different?I can easily pay or find ONS by i want real relationship.I mean it is ridiculous everybody is having sex since 13 while i am 23.

Massive ego smells like s**t to most women, lemme tell ya.

Teenage sex is nothing to be jealous of, it usually screws ppls lives up! You will be better able to handle all the results of an intimate relationship as someone in your 20's. Real relationships start w. someone having the guts to speak up. The shyness is the problem, not the looks. I think lots of ppl with big personality and just a little looks go a long way to being an attractive mate. You just can't be so shy not to let your personality through.

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I Googled and found an article about pheromones.
I'm thinking of maybe ordering some pheromone sprays.