Look Him in the Eye and Smile

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"Bikini-clad beaches tend to make many women want to shrink into their towels. They lay on the beach focused on other women’s tan and toned abs and buttocks, imagining that they of the near-perfect bodies must have it all – especially when it comes to sexual confidence. "

http://health.yahoo.com/experts/hotspot ... -and-smile

This article was written for women, but I think it applies to men as well.

(Coincidentally, I saw a related discussion on The Women's Pavilion, "when you see a woman who is very 'put together'")

(If topics in Adult Asperger Issues are not going to headline on the homepage I'll post 'em in Love and Dating)

One day I was walking into a local Walmart, looking down avoiding eye contact.
But I gave a quick look a head and saw a good looking young women. She was
either part mexican or asian I'm not sure. But I looked down again for a second while my brain process this great image. I then looked up at her into her eyes
and held a gaze she then smiled at me. If I had not been a shy loser that when have been a perfect time to say "hello" and try to strike up a conversation.

If you look at a women like that in a stairing gaze into her eyes. She will do one of the following:

1) Smile at you. She interested.

2) She looks down first, then away(left or right) she is showing submission maybe she is interested but shy.

3) Look away (to the left or right or I guess up) she is not interested.

That's good advice Machine, I actually know quite a bit about body language as well, but the problem is when you actually have to confront someone, usually my mind goes into panic mode and a I freeze up and mind goes blank. So you either end up saying something stupid and embarassing yoruself, or else you just stand there like an idiot not knowing what to say

i feel the same way. man, i love this place. its like ive found home.

reading about all of the posts we have here makes me feel i finally fit in.
thank god for wrongplanet.net

Me too.

lol, agreed!

yep

me3

You know this maybe the core issue in asperger. When I'm alone I feel calm and
in control. But as soon as people enter my zone my mind begins processing
different. There must be a physical part of our brains related to normal social
function that is not the same as NT's. If we could "fool" our brains into thinking
we were alone when that hot girl was nearby we could talk to her calm and in
control. Now how to fool our brains?

I think this causes a lot of the problem with guys. People might smile just to be friendly, but guys always seem to take this as you're interested when you aren't.

I don't even try to do this anymore because of the effect it might have. This crazy guy at work even threw a tizz at this girl because she said "hello" to him one day and he took that as being asked out on a date when she was just being friendly.

(I think the guy was a low functioning aspie, but also a total slimeball)

Thats true it does not mean 100 % time she interested but it usually it does. An
aspie will never get it right I had the problem of falling for very out going girls
thinking they liked me but infact they did this to everybody. So true you can not
just assume if a girl smiles it means you should ask her for a date but you might
want to talk to her if you can .

I'll post a Picture of me in a Bikini, once I reach 125 Lbs.

I wouldn't interpret a smile from a woman as a sign of interest. That's just being friendly. I'm an aspie and I know this, so what's with all these other guys? Seems to me they're just being pushy.

If a smile is not a sign of interest then what is? That's about all the "bait" a girl is going to throw at you. In other words, it's the only clue you're going to get. I know, it's a crappy clue because a smile can mean so many different things. You just have to go with it and hope you're not misinterpreting it (yet expect that you are).

From what I can tell a lot of women are as confusing as physically possible on purpose when it comes to this sort of thing--at least the ones who aren't completely slu*ty. Some sort of mind game somehow relating to showing whether or not you're worth their time or something? I dunno. This is why one must figure out this kinda thing on an individual basis, not with generalizations.

If a smile is a sign of interest, then I've given a lot of women the wrong impression.