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Why would you/ would you not date a single parent?

Would this change if the parent didn't have custody?

Would this change if the person was perfect in every other way except having children?

I'd date a single parent. Custody wouldn't make much difference to me.

ee i dunno if i'm old enough to be treading in step-mum territory. it's never something that's really come up

but i do always seem to fancy dads. terrible habit.

Generally, I would not. An except would be made in 2 cases. First, the children are old enough or close tol old enough to leave home (ie, close to graduating HS). The second would be that she really has her life togather (manages the drama and in good financial shape).

I prefer not to (not stepma material), but as I get older I'll have less choice. Sure there aren't many single dads my age at the moment, but as I get into my mid to late 30's that will be different; most guys my age will have kids.

Im a single parent, so far since i have become one, I have dated 4 guys, 2 tried to control me and how i chose to raise my child, (they were both NT's) and the other 2 are/were aspies, they were okay that I had a child and the newest one seams to have no problem that i have a child either.

Though I myself would not date a single parent (male or female) I would feel like id be intruding on their grounds, I also feel awkward looking after other peoples kids cause of all the political correctness and stuff and im always scared that if i pick up someone elses child to carry them id be doing it wrong n such... Theres just so many confusing things about being with someone else who has a child. also the point will both our children get a long etc.

I hear & see step-dads getting screwed over a lot; Dr Phil even said something about guys having problems when they date women with kids. Step-dads are expected to do things for the kids & watch the kids like dads are supposed to do because of their parental role but step-dads are not allowed to discipline the kids or give the mom any input into raising her kids because the step dad is not the kids real dad. The kids should be the most important people to a mom so the kids tend to be 1st priority so the step-dad could feel like 2nd place sometimes.
As for my preference~ I am very uncomfortable around kids, especially the younger ones. I'm also kind of like a kid myself in some ways partly due to my AS. I think a woman who is a parent would be more likely to act more like a mom towards me. I'm NOT saying I would not date a woman who has kids but I would be very watchful about her acting like a parent with me & how involved I would have to be with her kids & I defiantly would NOT want to get involved with baby-daddy drama

I hate kids, I wouldn't get into any relationship where they were involved.

I have nothing against single mums as long as they dont have feelings for the father of their children.

Yes they´d probably take lot of time from her but I wouldnt have an issue if she managed to find a small amount of time where we could be together, even if it involves having the kids around as well. That being said I´d like to have some time for ourselves every few weeks or so(probably not supposed to be read in the way your dirty mind is thinking right now) but we could find a babysitter I suppose.

I'm going say "definitely no". I have nothing against single mothers themselves (I'm male), but I'm bothered by an inordinate number of almost boastful-sounding statements "my kids always come first!" on dating sites. If one is a parent, kids coming first is common sense. If a woman feels the need to blatantly point that out, it makes me question her willingness to spend any time with me.

Also, while I don't know the whole story, how she ended up a single mother makes a big difference. If she is a widow is a divorcee, I have no problem whatsoever. Those things happen in today's society, and that's that. But if she's a single mother because she had a child with a pretty-boy jerk who sweet-talked her into intimacy, only to dump her afterwards, then it becomes an issue of carelessness. On top of that, I start to wonder if she's looking for a beta male to take care of her, financially and otherwise, after she made a bad decision and got intimate with an alpha male.

Just so no one accuses me of misogyny, here's another angle. If I decide start dating a single mother, it's inevitable that I'll develop a casual friendship/mentorship with her kid(s) or even become somewhat of an uncle figure. Then, if she dumps me, she'll get over it pretty quickly, and if not, I don't really care, because she chose to dump me in the first place. But the kid(s) will be hurt in the process, due to losing a person in their life who they might have enjoyed having conversations with.

My dad was a single parent. He dated all the time. It probably was his only relieve from the stress. He basically ignored me when he had a girlfriend.

Well, I don't know if I would. I have no intention of having children of my own for a few particular reasons. I don't feel I'm ready for the kind of relationship that would involve that kind of responsibility.

Eventually, maybe. Right now, no.

Kids are a deal breaker for me and the reason is simply because I really do not like kids, I never want kids and I feel that if things went further with the mother who I would happen to be dating, I'd somehow have to almost raise the kid and become a step father like figure. I think going out with a girl who I really like but has a kid would be a selfish move on my part because I'd be using her for a short term fling because I know that in the long run, I would never want a long term relationships with a girl who has a kid. She would be better off dating a guy who either likes kids or has some of his own so she's not alone.

I've met some girls I've really liked who happen to have children but I know that going out with them would not be a good idea. The fact of the matter is most single mothers will always have the father of their baby in their life. Sure, some fathers do abandon them completely but I think in most cases, fathers are still in the picture regarding visiting rights and spending time with them. I wouldn't like going out with a girl who still has to see her ex boyfriend regarding their child and I would probably have to meet the ex which I would rather not do. I'd feel like a third wheel in a strange way. When I go out with a girl, I just want it to be me and her with no ex's in the picture. A clean slate for both of us is the way to go.