Need some first date advice!

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Ok so I'm going on my very first date on saturday night (bowling). I'm a really funny talkative guy when I am around family and well-known friends, but meeting new people is really hard for me. I don't know what to say and sometimes I act really awkward. I have a good feeling about this date, though. So I was just wondering what some good questions are that I can ask her if there is a long silent moment or if I just don't know what to say...?
Oh and I don't have Aspergers, I have high-functioning autism.

Thank A LOT!

Wish i could give some real help but ive never had one. So im just gonna say be yourself.

Make sure she knows about your condition and what it is and isn't. It tends to make people more forgiving of your social problems, and it can be a conversation starter.

Go see a movie. You sit there for two hours next to the person and you don't have to say a word, but when it's over, you've spent two hours with the person and the ice is broken.

Since it's a date -with a girl I assume- it's always a good idea to ask her questions, make her talk. NT girls LOVE to talk about themselves. Ask her about the things she likes. But pay attention to what she says, so you can continue the conversation trying to find common ground, for example you she might like to listen to music and you can ask her anout the kind of music she likes and talk about the kind of music you like (try not to talk too much -for example no more than 15 minutes). That's what you do when you are trying to start a relationship with someobe: try to know the other person better. If she is interested in you, too, she will appreciate the gesture. Just try to ask and then talk about yourself, so the cobversatiin flows naturally and it does not look like an interrogation.

Knowing the condition is for later.

Just have a good time and kid around a little over bowling performance NOT what you or her look like. BUT please compliment her hair and her bowling performance. PLEASE! I begging you. If she doesn't know how to bowl and you do, you should help her be her instructor. You will create attraction if you do that.

If conversation happen, it is going to be a light and casual setting in bowling. The conversation is light as a tennis ball, so don't try bouncing it around too much or too hard.

The deep and more attentive conversation aren't suitable and are display in a quieter or less distracting enviroment.