Any NT loners out there?

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We all know that it is relatively harder for people "on the spectrum" to pair up. But are there any "normal" people that are loners and not as a result of a negative experience? I mean does being neurotypical guarantee that you will have a love life? I would love to meet an NT loner. I think they would be the coolest person ever. I would also love to see a very attractive woman who is strong and desires to remain single.

I imagine that there are people out there who are loners and NT, but most of the people I know who are effectively loners have ADHD or on the spectrum. Also, I'd imagine that if someone enjoys being alone to that degree, they might not be called neurotypical anymore, even if they are technically "wired" to be social. I'm not an expert in these matters, though, and labels are rather subjective anyhow.

I can say, though, that being neurotypical does not mean that you have a good love life. It just means that the obstacles you will run in to will be different. Dating and finding love aren't easy for anyone, though. If they were, there wouldn't be so many dating services and dating websites.

I think 'loner' and NT are, by the standards of current Mental Health thinking pretty much incompatible. Anyone who preferred to spend the vast majority of their time alone would be diagnosed with one sort of mental health problem or another.

As to romance, the tendency to prefer so much alone time is itself a relationship killer.

All the women I've ever known who were "strong and desired to remain single" had no interest in an exclusive relationship with anybody and tended to hop from guy to guy on an almost daily basis. They make great F-buddies, but don't expect them to sit around waiting on you to decide you're up for company that day.

NTs are most definitely not guaranteed a love life. Love and relationships can be very troublesome and full of issues for everyone, just different views, experiences, personalities, circumstances etc mean that these problems can vary and be dealt with in a wide variety of ways.
There's a load of obstacles, so just being NT doesnt guarantee anything when it comes to love...
it's all about the right person, place, time and mutualness. It has nothing to do with NT/AS or at least that's what I personally believe. I could be wrong. There are different problems faced, as syrella has said, but added to that I also think it varies person to person significantly.

I think it depends on what you mean by "loner". You could mean someone who prefers time to themselves only and shuts out other people in favour of their own time/space. Or you might mean a little less than that and simply mean someone who is not so fussed about their own popularity and is comfortable with spending time alone.
There -are- NTs who aren't bothered about socialising as much as others and are comfortable being by themselves, and may even prefer that.
I would imagine that someone such as that could potentially be harder to get to know if they prefer being by themselevs above all else. They would have to be a little bit flexible about that to let someone into their life in a way.

I think the other thing you are referring to is independency. Women that can fend for themsleves and are content with being single for the time being.
There are women like that out there, but again they could be harder to get to know unless they allow feelings to develop.

I would think that you would need patience getting to know a woman like that, but by the sounds of it, it seems like that kind of woman is one you'd really like to get to know, so it could be worth the wait

Good luck! Hope I helped somehow...

People with Schizoid Personality disorder can be NT loners. I don't think things like personality disorders would exclude someone from being NT if the person doesn't have any conditions that would cause em to have abnormal neurological development & activity such as learning problems or ADHD.

I'm NT, and am Single, am on the market though. I would not say I'm exactly Neurotypical though, by any means.

NT loners are somewhat scarry. You know why an autistic person is a loner we prefer it sometimes. But an NT I always think serial killer.