Are some people too much to handle?

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I try very much all the time to get a girlfriend. I really do. What the heck then is my problem with NT's? I think that an Aspie-NT relationship is possible but why doesn't it happen with me?

Ok, so let me start from the beginning. I had this crush on one of my fellow cast members in this play. She already has a BF though. However I try to at least establish a social relationship yet she just sees me as another person. Gift giving I know does not work because I bought her some white carnations. But this is getting ridiculous. I don't know whether or not to find out if someone just doesn't care about me or whatever. I wish I could get her phone number and call her to try and talk to her.

I don't want to cause trouble over this, but it's about time I stood up for myself.

I would say you have NO chance with her now, not as a friend, and not for relationship either. The flowers were a big mistake. Generally speaking, it is not socially acceptable to give a bunch of flowers to a woman who already has a boyfriend (unless it is because she is ill or something, or you have known her well for years, etc). She probably thinks you are a freak now because she would have interpreted the flowers as a romantic gesture towards her, which is inappropriate considering you know she already has a boyfriend.

But do not be sad about it, we all make mistakes, just learn from this, and avoid inappropriate flower-giving in future. With practise you will become better at all this.

The flowers woul djust creep me out if someone I didn't really know gave them to me..

Better luck next time though.

Break out with a wedding ring and 2 tickets to Las Vegas. Works every time!

its me, amanda. i do like you! your not just another person to me, u just had to ask!
the flowers were sweet, made my heart melt
i still have those flowers, on my night stand
since last year
sean....

Yeah, sorry but flowers to someone you barely know is definitely a no-no. You shouldn't really be concentrating on getting a girlfriend at all if you can't grasp that. Start out by making some friends. Not just female friends, but male friends too. From there you can building towards your romantic aspirations.

I agree. Giving gifts to someone you barely know is asking for trouble. You did say she has a boyfriend. Ummm. Better back off or you'll find yourself in a world of hurt. All she'd have to do is clue him in and I don't think you need a road map as to what he'd do to you. You don't want that kind of heat.

There are women out there that are not involved with someone. You just got to know where to look. Stay away from bars/night clubs, that's a pointless/useless way to go. I've been down the same road as you. . .many times. Try joining activity groups that you'd be interested in. . .that's one possibility. I'm sure other WP'ers have more ideas.

me Amanda you non_prefex Sean. yes? No?