You're the prize

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A long time ago I read a newspaper article about a dating expert and he said the most important thing was to act like you're the prize and not to worry if a girl likes you or not. I've thought about that and realized that's how I've actually had successful outcomes with women.

I am amazed at the amount of attraction you can create just by taking this attitude and using some conversational patterning techniques that give girls an incentive to chase after you. This can get pretty advanced however, but once I realized how attraction works, I became aware of the fact that I no longer worry about getting a girlfriend or finding girls.

One member said that aspies are experts at figuring out systems. You can game the system of attraction better than many NTs if you take the time to figure out how it works.

And try Alex, to make her feel as good as she makes you feel.

i'll try this out when i have incentives to offer a girl. right now i got nothing!!

i guess your right. so is this gonna work on hot college swedish girls? cause i see them all the time here at the university. and want to bone them in there dorm rooms. i have a feeling if i come off as to assertive though there gonna kick me in the nuts

Although you also have to take into account the feelings of the other person as well as thinking your the prize, I quite like this idea. I think its true to say that people tend to go for those that project confidence in themselves and love themselves enough (obviously without being pretentious) as opposed to going for people who have a downer on themselves, and who always whinge and moan about it. People who whinge about how inadequate they are all the time appear unattractive to people as thats your lot and your future is going to be them moaning at you all the time.

But then, as well as acting like you're special you have to feel it to a degree because people can pick up on falseness.

actually i think i get what your saying now. girls act like thier the prize all the time and thats why they get good dates. so if a guy starts acting "hard to get" wahlah instint success. is this what you are saying?

I play this game a little differently. Instead of thinking of myself as a prize, I think of myself as a consolation prize. In other words, I only go for girls who, stereotypically, wouldn't be able to find anyone better, and approach them or send them a message on a dating site. Regardless on who I actually "deserve," I know who will like me and who won't like me. So I approach only the ones who will say yes, be it for a date, a kiss, or something more. My standards are low enough for almost anyone to pass, so this course of action is quite easy.

I act like myself. My real personality doesn't attact as many as some false image would, but the people whom it does attract are probably much more worthwhile than someone who would need an illusion to become interested. Case in point, yesterday by simply being myself I got the number of a woman who I consider to be an absolute genius (she's looking to get a Ph.D. in Astrophysics, and has the intelligence to back it up)... exactly kind of person who I'd be most interested in (not to mention that she's a great conversationalist and really pretty).

I'll call her later this evening or tomorrow... if she's interested in a relationship, I'm definitely interested in pursuing one.


Not giving a **** about changing yourself to impress people is one of the most important things you can do.

listen guys i just tried this in the library parkinglot. great news! if you practice at it you can connect the dots to bringing everything to get her/ okay that was ret*d. ha anyways i was just in the library parkinglot and this girl came up to me and just wanted to know my name. and if i was a college student. of course im not, but i must look like one. i couldn't believe it no girl HAS EVER come up to me and asked me my name or anything else. i was completley f*****g shocked i almost didn't know what my name was i was that suprised.

and to make matters better i didn't studder and was very fluid in my speech, jumping from subject to subject bridging wonderfully. oh f**k it was amazing! anyways the girls name is danielle but her nickname is danny. and she uses the library computers for class, she's 21 and from out of state. she didn't tell me where she was from but she looks italian. goddamn i almost ejaculated in my pants twords the end of the conversation. i kept starring at her tits and i think she noticed. but didn't say anything. i didn't get her phone number but she said she would be at the library offten, ad that she'd probably see me around.

i really hope this is a turning point in my life because its about time and is goddamn overdue.

its so stupid but i guess confidence plays more of a bigger part than i ever expected. i think what held me back from this is i thought it was had to be harder to get to this point so i never got there. anyways thanks for all your help

Verry good point.
I have realized this as wel.
Basicly i just befriend girls and socialize with them alot.
The result is that alot of girls are interested in me now.

To be honest i couldn't possibly hit on them in real life.
If i did it was a girl i met irl and later talked to on the net.

Don't focuss too much on trying to get with them.
Be theyr friend.

Another thing is that i never get turned down this way
Because i already know theyr interested when i move in for the kill.