How many girls have you actually went for?

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How many girls has anyone here actually gone for? I can count maybe 6 or 7 times the girls I have gone for, but been rejected, or silent-rejected(never hearing back from them again). Most of the attempts were really pathetic too

I feel like that is so pathetic. I can't really blame any of those girls for rejecting/ignoring me, they obviously had a good reason.....I didnt have my s**t together. I still don't. Not in the least bit, and thats the most painful thing because it hurts so much and I know everybody else in my life can see it too.

On occasion I have randomly approached girls, without hesitation, but those were once in a blue moon, and it was just quick impulse before i could even think about it. Those went nowhere, because there was almost no anxiety on my part since I just "did it", I ended up playing the situation too easy and not going in to finish the kill. or I got kinda scared once I realized it could actually go somewhere, and then I hesitated. Those times though have been uncharacteristically me, and it weird all of the sudden being a virgin, and just approaching a girl pretending like its nothing for you.

A few. I had a girlfriend for a while.

I'm not sure how many it is 30/50 maybe. I went for most any girl who was nice to me & single & I ruined most of those friendships by telling em I liked em

none, i dont like setting myself up for failure for no reason

None, it will likely stay that way.
However I guess the chance of rejection would be very high due to my lack of social skills

A couple. I'm rarely rejected, but as soon as it becomes clear that I'm going to have trouble connecting emotionally, most run. Either that or they discover that I'm pretty much asexual. (Though I'm not completely blameless myself. :\)

Thankfully the ones that don't run are wonderful women.

My case, just two so far. First time worked, second time was because of (long, complicated, juvenile story) first one. So nothing unusual.

The converse comes to mind though: cases where a girl or a woman was sending signals my way that I just wasn't reading. I wasn't deliberately rude, wasn't actively rejecting, I just *didn't get it*, in some cases for *years*.

There's a quote from Dead Like Me for this: "Death is kind of like sex in high school. If you knew how many times you missed having it, you'd be paralyzed."

("What am I doing in this lady grad student's room? She's always well dressed, poised, her body language is attactive to watch because she's a dance major but she never really shuts that off, but here I am in her room and a bloody mess it is. What am I, helping her to clean it up...?", then years later: "....OHHHHHHHHHHHHHH....")

In general I try to not think about those cases. Life's a bit easier that way.