Shift of perspective

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I can kind of see where a lot of the guys here are coming from now.

I mean, Usually, I don't care about companionship, but I just feel lacking right now. And the only way to fix it is to get out and meet people, but you may never find your dream partner.

One can ignore his strongest instincts only for a while, the need for companionship is one of them.

Awwwww. (((((((group hug of shared hoping for companionship))))))

I try not to care, but it can become hard sometimes when as soon as you walk around town, you are faced with couples holding hands everywhere.
That, and the fact that I seem to keep ending up with other aspies, and that can actually make progress really, really difficult, even though you would think there would be greater understanding.
It would be nice to believe there is someone out there who is a 'perfect' match for each of those who want companionship, but I think it is rare to find that and it always takes a lot of effort and compromise, or seems to, to make life with another human work.
But that is my personal experience so far. It is beginning to seem a lot easier to resign oneself to life alone and make the most of it.

I don't care about companionship, either. In fact, I prefer to be alone. When I have friends, I'll gradually get rid of them as soon as we are not "connected" by work or school or something like it. It's an involuntary instinct: it just feels strange to keep in contact with them if I don't need to.

And yet, since about four years ago, I've been thinking about dating. Admittedly, outside of a few attempts on dating sites, I've done absolutely nothing to get a girlfriend, but I still think about it, even though I've officially given up for now (can you give up without even trying?).

I remember reading somewhere about how breaking up relationships affects men more than women. Supposedly, men are much less trusting of their friends and choose to share everything with their partners, while women have no trouble sharing intimate information with their friends. When they break up, women only lose one of their many confidents, while men lose their only one. Maybe this thinking applies to shy women, too. Or it has something to do with Baron-Cohen's Male Brain Theory.

Whatever it is, the conclusion is so sickeningly adorable, it makes me want to puke: the lone wolf only needs a hug.

awww, come on over here for a hug, little wolf cub!! !!
{{{awkward aspie hugs}}}

i think it can be very very hard to be single in this world.

Indeed it is. Everywhere you look its all about couples and sex.

It is. I went to yet another wedding last weekend where I spent the whole time just running after my own children. I'm the maiden aunt, and they're my own kids!

Every other person there (200+ person wedding) was paired up or else age-inappropriate for me or both. There's exactly one other single parent in our school system, from what I've been able to determine, and it's my ex-husband.

all i need is "lack of obstruction". if i had that then i would be in eternal peace.

i usually manage to ignore my lack of companionship, but at some times; especially when watching a movie, it gets too much seeing everyone cuddle up with his/her girl/boyfriend and me being stuck on the only single chair by myself...

do you mean day-to-day obstructions that are standing in your way, or is there something major that is impeding you?

just "day to day" stuff. always there are obstacles that i must clear before i can proceed. i am hassled that i have to deal with them. i look dimly upon them.

if i did not have to bother managing my course through existence, then it could all pass while i am asleep (like in a coma).

my life will finish one day, and the day after i die, i wonder what chores will need to be done.

i was going to ask if you get lonely for companionship, like the other posters on this thread. but i remembered you have Tammy (that's her name, right?). does it feel like a chore to do stuff with her?

OMG ... you're getting soft! LOL!


By definition, your statement implies that you may.

^^yea, she can't be hale_bopp.

Who are you OP? what have you done to the real hale_bopp???? IDENTIFY YOURSELF.