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Jonsi
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18 Jun 2011, 9:38 pm

So I've scheduled a date for the friday after exams. But now I really, really don't want to. I want to use that friday to rest because my week is now going to be extremely stressful. I really would love to continue things with this girl. Really would. But I wouldn't be able to give her my best if I was tired and stressed.

My biggest problem, and why I've posted is because I honestly have no idea how to say all that and not potentially lose her. Do I simply say something came up? I don't know. I've never faced this situation before.

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18 Jun 2011, 9:41 pm

Does she know you often need time to recoup after stressors?

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18 Jun 2011, 9:48 pm

Short answer is she knows I don't often need them but do require them from time to time. I need one desperately this week.

I'm mostly worried she'll think I'm just intentionally blowing her off.

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18 Jun 2011, 10:08 pm

Im not telling you what to do, but I would let her know about it and reschedule for next week. But thats just me.

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18 Jun 2011, 10:09 pm

Just be honest with her, Jonsi.

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18 Jun 2011, 10:10 pm

Yeah, she will understand I am sure because you say she knows you need time to relax...

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18 Jun 2011, 11:43 pm

Jonsi wrote:

Honestly, you made a date with a girl you like and if you cancel she is going to think you aren't into her or are indecisive and that's a turn off. You can certainly change the nature of the date though. If you had made plans for a long dinner, change them to coffee or tea for an hour instead. Tell her when you arrive that you have to apologize if you seem a bit (however you seem when you're tired) and explain that you're tired but wanted to see her.

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19 Jun 2011, 12:35 am

Why dont you say "Hey, would you like to move the date to {Saturday} or {Sunday} ? I think I will be a bit wiped out after my exam. What do you think?"

I think she will understand especially if you offer an alternative day which is close to the original day.

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19 Jun 2011, 10:02 am

Thanks for the help guys, but I was really out of it last night. I'm sure I'll manage.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

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