Expecting a baby with a beautiful aspie man...

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Hello..I'm a NT and have been dating an aspie for 2 years..we found out were having a baby!! We have a somewhat difficult relationship, but filled with alot of love. Timothy is a free spirited artist who needs alot of alone time, Since we found out we've found ourselves a little house and are lining up work to support our family. Timothy has always refused to do the norm, always focused on his art and a home and steady income were never a priorty. The idea of living a "normal" life terrifies him. When I met him he lived in a tiny art room and sat in the dark and painted. Right now I'm working at a job I won't be able to do much longer...and Tim has an interview lined up to do maintenance on the rail-way. I know that he does not want to do this...but we need the money. He has disability each month, but even finding the cheapest rent we could..with that money alone we cannot support our family. I want for his art to be succesful, but it is not making any money right now. I want him to be happy, but right now he is depressed. Is there anyone with some advise for us?

A terrified, depressed man, who has never been in the workplace, is unlikely to be able to get and keep a job. Who can function when they're terrified and depressed?

If this is the reality you're facing as a pregnant woman; assume you will be the only person capable of financially supplementing the disability checks. Or seek the help and mercy of your parents to house yourself and the baby.

Divest yourself of worrying about Timothy's art. He's an artist, he'll create art. You'll have a child to raise and an income to earn.

You're probably going to have to work as well.

sadly, i agree that the money earning and child rearing will fall to you.
it's possible that your sweetie, with the stress from a crying baby, up all night, money stress, diapers, etc... might even retreat more into his art. expect the possibility that it could be very difficult for the first 2 years until your baby starts to talk and can express it's needs. you might find that you're going to have to be more than patient...goddesslike patient with your man for a very long time.
i hope i'm wrong but knowing what i know about aspies/stress/down time, it's likely going to be your responsibility without much help all the way around. i HOPE not. sorry.

I agree with the other posters OP. It would probably be best if you have the job & he stays home & does the parent thing while your at work. Sense he's on disability he probably has something besides AS that would limit him with employment & he might also have insurance like Medicare or Medicaid that could help cover the kid. He might perhaps be able to collect SSI for the kid if your income is low enough sense he's disabled. He cold risk losing all his disability benefits 1ce he goes to work & it might be very hard for him to get back on em if the job doesn't work out. That's what happened to me with my last job

This post is hateful & unhelpful

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You people are homewreckers and doomsayers.

You sound like an angry mob with sharp tools and torches, "hang him! hang him!".

Give the man a chance for Ba'al 's sake.

veggieburrito, most men in the world are obliged to work in crappy jobs even if they don't like them, they do it because they have to, work is not optional for men, it's a duty, your man is not much of an exception in that regards. The fact that he went to the interview indicates that he got that fact.

Besides, he can do a side-job as an artist, if he's that talented then he can sell his artworks, I know many artists are resistant to that idea but you can try to convince him to go commercial, if he gets enough clients he can then drops the job he hates and start a small business in something he loves.

I am surprised, indeed.

Here is the third time that I can see a little light of thinking from you...

But most of time you are so depressive and made me very unexcited.

So obvious, that sometimes I am extremely easy to satisfy, and I cannot even believe so.






















( E.g.right now!)

Never mind. Going to read some Kahlil Gibran tonight.. And I was reading Rubaiyat last night.

I hope you would like to advise me some good poets.

Never mention that modern Fazza3, he gave me bad moods through you!! !! !!

What do you mean by "I can see a little light of thinking from you..", I am not even good at English so maybe I not getting it right.

What does this expression mean? Do I shine or something? lol

Non, non..monsieur Is that better?

I cannot speak Arabic at all But I will study

Light.. My English may be worse.. That is a metaphor..

I hope native English speakers would not laugh at us

You seems are not thinking during most of the time Therefore it is time-wasting Awful Unexciting Simple

Congito Ergo Sum.

^^ I don't care whether I am exciting you or not :-/, why are you making it sound as if it's some duty I should do? That's not even on my list of concerns.

Ludicrous opinion comes...

I don't even think you can make me excited. Therefore I would not make it as your duty So relax

Why I have to challange you things that I know you probably cannot achieve?

I am kind And have enough mutual understanding on this point

Bonne nuit Have a beautiful, exciting, poetic, erotic and exotic(*in certain sense) dream.

I can still be a rich in disguise though, you know.

hmmm....

What about this one?



The fantasy.

Petal of Roses, candles, silk sheet

Sensuality and whisperings wanders underneath

Your softness invades my whole being

And your caress makes you more exciting

Every time you redraw my whole body

And make me desire you more closely

This night was like a long dream

I no longer want to end this stream

Your lips’ taste has the excitement

You feel mine with all passion

Discovering, soft games of seduction

That we push it all beyond explanation

Our two bodies do nothing but shiver

In osmosis, our organs are guided by pleasure

A heat that will never finish

Feeding our most desired fetish

Satisfaction, happiness and always this pleasure

I do madly lust you, my treasure
















































PS: it's not about you

Alas...

Have you not realised the mind-sets of women yet?



I can get plenty so-called 'rich'es. Therefore, wealth just a trifling factor to me, however, also necessary.

And you, no matter if you are rich or not, I feel sympathy, empathy and compassion (a perfect triple combination. etc may apply also) toward you.

Young, emotional Idealist, you can be anti-nature only for ideas existing in your mind...I think I would even like to pay my deepest respect to you.

You can ignore common senses, you can ignore physical and mental attractions only for your belief.
You would like to ignore the much younger, more intelligent, more beautiful, more sexy, more fresh, more romantic...option and choose other options only for practise your theory.

However, the result was that options you have chosen were all patheticlly failed to your standard.

And it can prove...

..............................

Heureusement, I am not in your option.. And, if so, I will be very worried about that, lovely naive creature, who practises exactly on his ideas...

I don't mind to be the third or the fourth wife at all. But your options would be

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Just saw the poem

Alas, I have already want.....

If.....

But.....

And if so.....


etc.....