I don't know what to do! Opinions needed!

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Well, i have been dating this girl for 3 weeks, she's my sister-in-law(Maryanne) best friend, and my sister-in-law ex-boyfriend is trying to split the two of them, saying that Maryanne would no longer be friends with Alice(my girlfriend) because she would only spend time with my brother, she's younger than me and is behaving kinda shallow with me lately... i asked if she was angry at Maryanne and she said yes, but, unfortunately, she's affecting me as well, i think it is very immature of Alice's part to act like this and listen to this guy.... what should i do?

you have to let everyone know that the relationship is between you and maryane, and that they should stay out of it.

i'm sorry, i read it 3 times and could not sort out the relationships or what someone is doing wrong. can you clarify?

Sorry about my english, im still praticing it. But the story is, my brother and i date 2 girls wich happen to be best friends, Maryanne ex-boyfriends, is trying to crush the girls realtionship, and Alice is acting weird and shallow with me, even though i have nothing to do with it...
Maryanne- Brother GF
Alice- My GF

no, it was probably my fault. i have trouble with understanding pronouns and relationships because of how my brain works.

Alice sounds like she needs to chill out and stop blaming you for something that isn't your fault. sounds like for some reason she trusts that ex-boyfriend of Maryanne's an awful lot, which isn't fair to you. but maybe she has known Maryanne's ex-boyfriend a lot longer and might be more willing to listen to his opinions.

why does that guy want to crush the relationship? i guess that by isolating her from her friends he could make her more vulnerable and likely to reunite with him, but it seems too complicated. can you talk to that guy directly to find out why he is so hell-bent on driving them apart? not in an argumentative way, but maybe he knows something that would explain why he is doing this.

what i'm getting at is.... did Maryanne do something bad or does she have a major problem, and does your brother know about it?

Well, she does know him before she met me, and he is obsessed with Maryanne, that is why he is trying to split Alice and Maryanne, i thought about confronting him but I'm afraid of losing my head and end up beating him... but anyways, Alice believed him, so thats why she is behaving this way... she is kinda naive, and the crucial point is that i like her, and i don't want to ruin our relationship, but on the other hand, i want someone who is mature enough to deal with these situations and not affect others around her....

First off how many people of involved in this situation excluding yourself please. Am aware that you involved in this via other peoples behaviours. Also can you tell me how well can you approach the other people involved as I get the feeling there's a few people you need to talk about this as you need to known what going on.

I need to understand who is involved and there dynamics to help you with the best course of action. From your OP I feel that need to talk to your GF asking her for the reasons for the way she is feeling now with you. Plus ask her about your sister-in-law's ex. Also talking to your sister-law with help. Ideally if you can talk to your sister-law's ex you what to find out what the hell is bloody playing it. Its better to communicate with all thoses involved to get a better picture of this situation.

Thanks everyone for their opinion, i solved the case, i broke up with her today... i guess we are born to be alone...