Tired of Being single

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I am almost 30 years old and I have had never had a chance to have a boyfriend and go out on a date with him. I often meet a person of the opposite sex and I think that things are going to work out enough for him to ask me out but it never happens. Instead, they end up meeting my other friends and then I just plain get ignored.

What is the hardest is that every other friend of mine has been in a relationship with someone and I haven't. Even my most current friends have an easier time get a relationship and I don't.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Well...I tend to go long periods of time being single before meeting someone because I don't stand out among my pretty friends. They have multiple suitors and I don't get a second look. My relationships (as few as they were) tend to crumble fast so I wonder if I'm simply undatable or if I'm never meant to be in a relationship. People wonder what's wrong with me because I can never keep anyone from cheating on me or leaving all together. I hate family reunions for this because they always ask me about my love life.

I dumped my last boyfriend two plus years ago and have yet to snag another one! Yeah, I'm tired of being single too! In my case, however, I think it's the fact that I'm currently living in a group home that hurts my eligibility...

I'm also thinking that I shouldn't be as upfront about my AS as I was recently might improve my odds of getting a guy.

I feel sorry for you here. It looks to me like you've tried to seek out partners too?

What's your personality? In the kindest possible way I can think of, perhaps people don't find your personality that attractive?



Better that than being used as an object.



Ah, but woud you want a relationship with a guy that isolates you from your family, beats you black and blue, rapes you, pawns you out to his gambling mates for a bet, forces you to strip in front of his friends?

You're better off where you are.

Incidentally, are you from the UK? What are your interests? I'm not trying to chat you up here, but you could use this as an advertisement of sorts to let your own feelings shine through.



I'm 23. Never dated; never achieved anything but a very awkward sloppy kiss; never had sex… and I'm Captain Tubbs. So there's still a long way to go. Particularly as a lot of us are less popular than an STI.

Last edited by Tequila on 23 Jun 2011, 7:24 pm, edited 1 time in total.

you're 23!?

I'd say that "sloppy kids" are quite an achievement, dad!

awkward sloppy kids, i'll have you know

Changed it, you infectious glob of spunk poison.

whats that mean:/

spunk is good.

I am outgoing, fun, and very attractive however and guys do look at me but seem to treat me as if I am a decorative porcelain doll where I am just meant to be looked at and then played with but not anything else.

I am not interested in jumping into something where I am going to be abused, I have a sister in one of those and know a few others in an abusive relationship because they don't think that anyone else will want them.

I appear to be one of those types of women who goes to your average singles group and never dates.

Well, if you wouldn't mind a younger guy

I have a love/hate relationship with my single status. On some days, I enjoy the single/Batchelor life. Other days, i cry myself to sleep wishing for my ideal match. My game plan is once I get myself established in my life, il start hunting for a mate. I have had my heart broken so many times, I treat break-ups like water of a ducks back.

Absolutely. I'm 33 and the only women that have ever gone out on a date with me were because they wanted something not because they were interested in me. Never got past 2 dates with one since it was so obvious. I hate being used and lied to. *shrug*.

Bolded part is quite frustrating isn't it? A little part of me dies inside every time I see someone just meet a complete stranger and within seconds they connect..somehow.

Maybe you should try telling the guys you are interested instead of waiting for the guys to make the 1st move. You may not be giving off the rite signals that NT girls tend to give off that lets guys know they are interested in em. I'm 28 & a half & never had any luck getting a date either. If you'd want to try meeting someone online; lots of guys here including me would be interested

I imagine that you're giving off signals that others interpret incorrectly - unapproachable, not interested, "stuck-up" even. It's a very common problem with Aspies - I wish I could tell you how to overcome it, but I've never been able to do it myself...