Do you need to dress in similar ways/status to date?

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Well seems to me when I look at most couples they are dressed in similar types of fashion and look.
And looking back in high school it was probably the same thing....

Do women find men who dress to a similar drum beat (course not wearing dresses....>< but the male side of the fashion scope) more attractive?

How do you know what is similar clothes to theirs?

I don’t dress in any kind of fashion, jeans and a t-shirt is good enough for me. And even if on the rare occasion I go to a bar or club with friends I wear this as well.
I always feel like my friends look strange/funny dressing nicer going to these places. But maybe they are on to something and I hadn't realized it's importance to women.
While I still think it is a bit ridiculous.....that a persons clothes should dictate this it does make a little sense. Also I am a hypocrite in this sense, I would like girls to look pretty and
I have probably had a preference toward girls who look a certain way and dress in a certain way without realizing it. Although I can't really picture what clothes a women should wear
and I just am attracted to it when I actually see a girl wearing certain clothes.

So with this ignorance of what a women should wear and what a man should wear.....and this new found idea of clothes compatibility what am I to wear? ><

Is there any small change I could make to my appearance that would make me more compatible to their appearance? =/

Anyone have any experience with this?

Or am I imagining this that there is some kind of clothes status conspiracy?

(Edited for spelling errors....sorry about that)

Clothes are symbolic markers of group identity. Which clothes you choose tell people what group you identify with. Each group has male and female versions of its clothes which is why you noticed dating couples dressing similarly (yet differently according to gender).

I can't give you a list of groups and what clothes go with each because I'm too old. The names of the groups and the clothes chosen have changed since I was young. What hasn't changed is the use of clothes as a way to communicate what group you belong to.

Presumably you belong to the same group as your friends. Therefore it makes the most sense to dress similar to how they do. There is no one right way to dress to attract women because each group has its own clothes and will consider the clothes of a different group to be ineffably "wrong".

So follow your friends' lead in what to wear and dress like them. Or look at the what men are with the women you want to attract and dress like them.

Careful not to mix correlation with causation.

My bf and I dress quite alike (jeans and t-shirt) but we didn't find each other based on what we wore, rather that we met, got along and just happen to have a similar mindset towards fashion and dressing up (i.e. not worth the effort)

I imagine some people do use clothes to signal what they're interested in (and pick up like-wise individuals) which perhaps may be why you see 'Goth' couples or 'Emo' couples, but you're better dressing to your own tastes whilst waiting to come across a like minded individual rather than mimicking fashion styles that aren't really you- the latter may work faster but unless you enjoy dressing that way it will be hard work to maintain.

Obviously, different occasions call for different clothes, but day to day, t-shirt and jeans are perfectly normal!

edit: also to add, many couples don't dress alike- seen some very high maintenence girls attached to scruffy guys and they seem happy enough (or maybe it was a new trend? )