“Will I finally have a relationship this year?”

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At the beginning of every year since I turned 17, it always starts with me wondering “Will I finally have a relationship this year?” and it will stay on my mind. Besides one year, the year usually ends with me feeling despondent it didn’t happen and I already dread the coming year.

My 33rd birthday is coming and nothing is getting better.

I thought I was going to get ripped apart for this topic.

You have a long history of saying you want a girlfriend. But you never told us why specifically you want a girlfriend. What's your end goal?

Is it wanting to feel loved, without really caring by whom?

Is it for sex and other physical intimacies? (kissing, fondling, etc.)

Is it to have a guaranteed date for events that require one, like fancy galas?

Is it to have an opposite-sex activity partner for social and entertainment outings?

Is it simply to be able to tell people around you that you have a girlfriend?

It it to prove to yourself than you can actually get a girlfriend?

Is it something else I didn't mention or forgot about?

Don't forget: all reasons are valid, and equally valid at that. Well, maybe not the "tell people" one; it wouldn't be fair to her to put her in a role of your "validation checkmark". So, it's in your best interests to figure out for yourself why exactly you want a girlfriend. Then you'll be better able to find the kind of girlfriend you're actually looking for.

Another thing: How important are your girlfriend's looks to you? Do you want to be able to feel proud of being seen with her in public? Or conversely, how do you feel about checking maps to avoid neighborhoods where people you know might see you with her? Are you OK with dating any woman who shows interest in you regardless of how she looks, as long as she likes you? Keep in mind that the willingness doesn't make you "woke", non-shallow, or a better person. It's simply a compromise you consciously make in regards to knowing your limitations in attracting women.

Hey Mark I thought of you today when I saw this ...

Sorry guys ... hope you all find what you’re looking for. Sportsgamer, that event you were at last night looks amazing! I was sports mad in Australia!

Thanks Mark. I genuinely wish the best for you.

Thank you, Juliette. I am happy you are kind to me and don’t tear me down like people in my regular life tend to do.

Most women, regardless of their race and ethnicity (With two exceptions), generally want a man who is Christian. That’s been a major barrier for me. That’s also why someone like Ted Nugent can get into relationships despite being an aggressive jerk.

Indian and Middle Eastern women in my area tend to only want to be with Hindu and Muslim men respectively. It doesn’t help that the former tend to have arranged marriages.

I want to see you to be in a relationship, Brother Marknis.

But like I mentioned in another thread, let love find you instead of vice-versa.