Fear of change keeping aspies out of relationships?

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Do you think the reason why aspies often find relationships difficult to start is because we dont like change.

I have just realised when I was a child I couldnt wait to become an adult as I think all children think, but then when I got to 16 I thought I dont want this I want to stay a child I dont want the responsibility and to go out into the real world and get a job, Im not ready to cope with it.

Same feeling different time, when I told my mother I didnt think I wanted to learn to drive because I didnt want to be independent and would not know what to do or where to go if I was in the car on my own.However I really enjoy it now because Ive realised I can be free to go where I want and be away from others when I want.

Im wondering if my fear of having a relationship is coming from the same unwillingness to change. From what I can remember I am having the same thoughts now as I didnt in other situations I just want to stop the world, not to get off just for it to stay exactly how it is and not have to experience change or progression.

Is it the aspie fear of change that is making me think this or do NTs think the world is progressing too fast for them as well?

The old saying goes that "Men marry women with the hope they will never change, women marry men with the hope they will change, and they all wind up disappointed.”

It seems true more often than not.