Men Women and Brains

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I'm not sure if this is a well known fact but men and womens brains are made of different stuff. Women have a HUGE amount of white matter which is inter-connective tissue where you store "right now" thoughts. It may surprise men to know that women are always thinking, multiple thought processes, always, forever. Under extreme stress the area between the left and right side of the brain activates which is responsible for nurturing feelings. When a man is under extreme stress the frontal lobe is active which is responsible for fight or flight. So if you have ever wondered why women want to talk about their issues when you want to punch somebody in the face or run away, it's because you have two different brains. To the women reading this, men de-stress by clearing their mind and having NO thoughts going through their head. No words form. No pictures. Nothing. If you think men like TV/Computer more than YOU, you're wrong. They need the TV/Computer to get rid of all their baggage so they can listen to YOU and help you get rid of yours.

Huh. Turns out I'm a dude, then, if this is correct. And these gorgeous breasts, just going to waste...

Actually, I think I'm a kind of hybrid, believe it or not.

this is a generalization about NT people, which is why I thought I would tell you lovely people! I would love to hear AS women and if they relate as I think AS men are extreme versions of normal men (when it comes to this stuff). Do AS women just function more like NT men, in that they are more able to have a single minded focus than NT women are?

Also it's good to know your breasts are gorgeous!

***shiver!***

I think I'm probably hybridy too.

I think a lot, all the time, non stop. It causes me to have sleep problems, because I can't turn my brain off. So I do like peace and quiet and a time of solitude and general aloneness. And I do also have an avoidant tendency, so if a situation is causing me emotional overload then I will rush off somewhere. I'll always flight over fight if I can.

Having said that, I'm not one for oppressing emotions and feelings, and I find that if I don't talk about them, then it all builds up into a big scary fountain of sensations.

Do you have any links to articles about this subject OP?

Well said, Henbane. I'm like this, too.

And I find that I tend to talk about things but only as a measure of control over how I feel about them / tendency to want to solve or understand. I don't talk just to talk, I find that annoying in the extreme.

I think the "flight" you are talking about would probably not be the same part of the brain activating but more of a conscious decision to override your initial instincts. When I say men have "fight or flight" they don't have the urge for just one of the options.

"In men, increased blood flow to the left orbitofrontal cortex suggested activation of the "fight or flight" response. In women, stress activated the limbic system, which is associated with emotional responses."

so your emotional response may be to run away (just to clear up the confusion)

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/20 ... 100142.htm
http://www.sciencedaily.com/videos/2008 ... m_mars.htm

Women.....

Guess I am a dude too.

Honestly I don't think this is so black and white. There are degrees.

Thats pretty much what we are talking about, not all women like to talk just to talk. That is more to do with personality rather than sex. We are talking about how we solve our emotional stresses, and the way women do it is to talk.

....are irresistible.

Okay, except I don't see that I do this because I'm a woman. I'm annoyed by people who don't talk to resolve things on my timetable ( ), I consider them cowardly (man or woman). YMMV, of course.

Do you really think you can ever make the assumption that somebody is motivated by fear in any given situation? Cowards are afraid, and you think people cowardly who don't want to have a deep and meaningful talk when you want them to? Maybe you should put more thought into what others are thinking, just a thought

I mean, men are stupid creatures. We won't do something you ask unless you ask more than once. But if you hassle us we need more time alone to recuperate.

Maybe I misspoke. What I meant is, if someone needs more time to process a situation and doesn't want to (or can't) talk about things in that moment, that person should say, "Can we talk about this in a little while? I need some more time to process this." (I respect this approach) Not just stomp away or be silent or sulk or whatever. (I do not respect this approach)

I don't think men are stupid creatures. Then again, I don't ask them to do anything, and I certainly don't "hassle" them. If something makes me anxious, I also need a lot of time to recuperate, but I'm respectful about declaring my need for space. That's all!

well it will be interesting to see if anybody here does relate or find these helpful..... which was the original point of the post lol. i think i have failed though.

I think you bring up interesting phenomena, but I also think things are less black-and-white than you have presented them. I think we're all different. I would LOVE to see a brain scan of myself to see how it compares to other people's (men, women, people in vegetative comas, chimpanzees, whatever), but ultimately it doesn't much matter to me because I feel completely solitary, no matter whether similarities are noticed or comparisons made.