The issue of celibacy

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I'm 23 years old and still a virgin . i could have lost it several times so not to point out the obvious sex in the long run never meant anything to me , ive become immune to social status grinding it in our heads that if you don't lose your virginty by the time your 15 your going to die alone . Nobodys alone , romance won't fill any void at least for me . I'm not saying to not find love , but from my own personal issues celibacy has made me more open minded, and i can see through peoples superfical BS alot more clear now . Whether you seek it out or not , sex is a momentary comfort and like most drugs fuels a need that can cause serious problems if you don't have it under control . Ive choosen my path at a young age to show people that dwelling on the depressive thoughts of being sexless is a useless way to live , be happy with what life has given you and take pride in the simple things.
The worst isn't over yet , the best parts of your life in baby steps must take shape , so when the time comes you know how to act .

i'm so tempted to reply with "no offense dude, but you need to get laid!", it's too obvious though haha

But really, I think you just have a lesser need for sex/intimacy than some other lonely people on here. I can definately say i don't feel your views apply to how I feel about these things

It sounds to me like you are most likely asexual. Welcome to the club. That's the good news. The bad is that although I agree that celibacy is the ideal state of being, there is something you might have overlooked. Men have something to look forward to should they live long enough. The prostate increases in size making it difficult to urinate, and possibly leading to prostate cancer. Several medical studies have concluded a simple way to reduce the risk for prostate cancer is frequent ejaculation. So while it may be messy, and you might think it isn't worth your time, I'd recommend taking care of business at least a few times per week. I always do it right before bed. You know you'll be able to piss when you're 50, and you get sleep hormones as an added benefit. Anyway, just a thought.
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I was also a virgin when I was your age. there is no shame nor pride about it.



see this attitude is why you're still a virgin and probably going to stay that way



nope, you're possibly in denial about your own nature and you're most definitely trying to make yourself feel better by belittling the sex lives of others. either you're asexual, in which case, quit the patronising, or just get on with your life and don't be so f*****g judgmental about things you know nothing about. also, quit with the space before the full stop, it looks ridiculous.



exactly how young were you when you've made the choice? if you were anything below 25, you really had no idea what you were giving up.



now you're just sounding like a depressive emo. "worst isn't over yet"? "baby steps"? wtf, come on! your life has only just started, and it will be over before you know it. get off your high horse and just enjoy it, and try to share the joy of living with others. I know it's not easy for us here gathered, but that attitude will get you nowhere, believe me. there's nothing superficial about having some harmless fun as long as you keep it responsible and honest. now go and lose virginity man!

Once again labels work easily when someone is letting lose vunerable emotions . " Well go get laid " seems like the cliche moronic macho stand point doesn't it ? in all honesty i want to have a sex life , but the statments i made hold true in every form .
But to throw out words like emo and phrases like " your still young just get on with your life " . It's advice i could get from my parents or my ex girlfriend or a drunken barfly . It holds no real merit or value , celibacy for me is my life choice for now , i'm advocating it for people to move on from all that nonesensical rite of passage BS , just take things as they come . There's nothing sexual about it , if things turn out right then let your life be sexual , but i'm at a phase where neither postive or negative work on me . Simplicity works for me quite easily in that aspect . But i like all these posts , it gives me insight not on denial of my well being , but how you view certain lifestyles as a whole . God bless you all .