Males with aspergers - STOP BEATING YOURSELVES UP!

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You know you really aren't any worse at picking up women than the average bloke.

You should see some of the garbage I get in my NZ dating inbox. I bet every member of this forum could write a better message. I think you're way too hard on yourselves.

definitely. Aspie men are better to date.

I don't know if they are. But all I mean is that "normal" men are often socially inept and more so than aspies... at least aspies try.

Shy, quiet, lack of confidence, lack of communication skills and possibly ugly are not ideal traits that would attract potential partners. Aspies are better off keeping to themselves, minding their own business and living in their own routine.

Females are mainly attracted to confident, out going, strong, attractive, friendly guys who will keep them safe. Materialistic Females are mainly interested in the size of a guy's bank account, car, house, position and power.

Females are complicated and hard for NT guys to understand. The Aspie guy would not understand women at all.

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you're missing the point of the thread. Most NT guys aren't those things either. Only some are.. and for some reason those are the NT men aspies dwell on.

and here it is, the mantra of WrongPlanet's single males. we should make a drinking game out of this! we'd quickly run out of booze though.

Well it only took 4 posts for a positive/encouragement thread to turn into a woman hating thread, must be a record.

I doubt that Aspies can write better, or more passionate letters than NT's can. But let me ask you, how often have you been seduced by written words? The fact is that you are stunningly beautiful. Men will carve a path through the gates of hell itself to call on you. I don't have the luxury. I'm not attractive and excluding major plastic surgery I never will be. So I respect your opinion, but the fact is that most Aspies have a problem with approaching women.

Females usually date guys between 2 to 5 years+ older themselves. Why is that the case?
The females say it is maturity but that is not always the case. The older guys have usually worked longer and have more money, more power and more status: factors that attract the younger female. A male is like a bus: there is always another one waiting. Dating is a numbers game.

Males predominantly outnumber females every where in the world between the age ranges of 0 to 65. Only in the older age groups do females out number males. Females biologically live longer than males on average by 3 to 5 years.

Most girls these days play hard to get anyway.

there's your solution! wait until you're in your 80's and all the other men are dead!

And remember, gentlemen, all women and girls are exactly alike and always want the same things. That's why rich, handsome, confident men get all the girls and nobody else ever does. Except, of course, for those billions of guys who do, every day.

This^ x100

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of course! also - aspie men are only interested in trophy girlfriends so they have only themselves to blame, tah-dah-dah.

oh, one more thing to make this thread like all the other threads in this subforum:

<summon KenM>

Might I contribute something approaching a bit of "sense and sensibility" to this thread? I must declare an interest in advance however: I'm a male, British, divorced Aspie.

All generalisations (such as those above, and including this one) are dangerous.

Men, women and inanimate objects get together for as many reasons as one can imagine and I'm sure many more. I have been fortunate to be in relationships in the past although am not in one now and haven't been for a while.

As Aspies one of our conditions is our inability to see the world around us as being anything other than black-and-white: in this way we live an essentially binary existence. This, in its wake, leads to issues in communicating not only with members of the so-called "fairer" gender, but also with the world as a whole.

For me this has meant in the past being unable to express feelings adequately: occasionally this means that I'm unable to express at all but most of the time it means that I express with too much vigour or fervour meaning that I come across as being a bit too "full-on".

I would love to be in a relationship with someone but if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. This doesn't mean that I should be down on myself. Over the years I've grown fond of my own company - not to the extent of Narcissism but to the extent of necessity.

In conclusion, therefore - we're all different and the fact that we've a common condition should be a reason for celebration, not divisiveness, surely?