Question about your first relationship

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When you met your first boyfriend/girlfriend ie you were inexperienced in relationship stuff did you know that you really liked them after say 5 dates? And when you met them did you immediately think you wanted to kiss them?
Or did you have to get to know them gradually for a few months before you know you really like and wanted to kiss them?

I knew after the first meeting, let alone the first date. Always do.

I liked him from the moment I met him, but at that point, he was seeing someone else and I was thinking of him as a friend. It wasn't until I got to know him better, he was single and I learned how much he cared about me that I felt anything romantic towards him. It took a while for circumstances and feelings to be right.

My first relationship didn't involve any dating- we were both sixteen and neither had a car or a license. Bikes were the means of transport- it was a very juvenile (as you can imagine) thing, in that I basically only "liked" him because he liked me, and it was exciting, and all that. How could you not know if you like someone after five dates, though? Half an hour if not less is enough time for me to know whether I want to pursue something with someone.

I liked them from the first time on. I think I kissed him at the second date, damn no one else I kissed after was that good with that. Unfortunately we never shared more intimate things, well that's the sad part on it. You never forget your first love.

One thing it taught me is what I didn't want.

I did it for experience due to peer pressure.

He kissed me on the third date, I got afraid and left. I really wanted to kiss him but had no idea how to properly. Still together with the same guy after all these years though

I can definitely identify with that. I did it because it seemed a bit mean to say no to a perfectly nice guy just because I wasn't attracted to him, and because the guy I did like clearly wasn't interested. Totally the wrong reasons.

We were "only friends" for months, until suddenly we were kissing.

It was an internet thing & I was not looking for a relationship at the time. We were friends that had lots of weird things in common & really connected. I didn't want to consider a relationship with her when she 1st told me she liked me because I had some issues & she was a bit younger than me so I didn't want to risk her getting hurt. I mentioned how she liked me to a couple guys in our online circle of friends & they asked me if we were an official couple. I was caught off guard & was confused at 1st & when they mentioned how we both seemed to really like each other, were happier & how we both seemed better off with each other because we were supporting each other & things; I suddenly realized I was in love & got all romantic; it was like wires & switches changed in my brain

No, it wasn't an initial attraction. I barely spoke to them until they sent me a message online out of the blue one day, and I got talking to them and found I connected to them. (I don't often connect...) When I met with them in 'real' life after that (we were in the same school) then it was an instant attraction kind of thing.

> have never been in a relationship
> always know right away