My First Girl Trouble

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I'm only 14 years old so bare with me here. Bare with me. I am only 14. Only 14. I like a girl at school. I like her cause she's really nice. She's really nice, but I fear she only is nice to me out of pity. Only nice to me out of pity. Cause I get repeaty in my words. Like now I repeat things I know I am repeating them, but I can't stop. I am repeating. And get stressed out. They put me in the slow classes for the "Specials" the school calls them. She's normal according to the way they separated us out.

I don't want her to think I am ret*d. Cause I am not. I am not ret*d. And everyone at school calls me ret*d. But I am the only one at school who passed Algrebra 1 and 1b. And am on Algrebra 2 now. And I know Geometry. I also am good at science and language arts. I'm only in the special class because the other classes are to loud and put to much pressure on me. But I read at a college level, I am at a 12 grade high school level with math. I am not a ret*d.

But I fear the girl thinks I am. I repeat my words. And I rock back and forth sometimes. I like Legos a lot and know a lot of information. I collect a lot of Legos and make a Lego worlds. When I talk and am nervous I rock back and forth. And I like her, but I think she thinks she is helping me out and not me as dating material.

Because you are 14 I am going to be honest with you. You are probably right. I don't know that she pities you but your behaviors might subconsciously cause her to view you as someone who would have no romantic interest in her, and so she feels she doesn't have to keep the social distance she might keep with boys who she knows might have such feelings.

I will also tell you something else you should be aware of. You should not be so eager to like a girl just because she is nice to you. One reason is, girls just tend to socialize in a "nice" way. Another reason is, if you fall for a girl just because she's nice...well that's a bit desperate, you should have other reasons to like her.

But then again, maybe she does like you in a more than friends way. The only way to know would be to indicate to her you like her by asking her out on a date, telling her you like her, or giving her a rose, and if you do that you have to be able to accept rejection if she doesn't reciprocate the feelings.

As for your traits, the repeating and rocking and such, If you don't want to stand out or appear "ret*d" you should refrain from doing this in public if you can. Since you repeat things, you could actually have a form or Tourette's Syndrome and that can frequently be helped with medication. I knew a guy who had a similar problem. He would frequently repeat his words but I noticed he did manage to control this significantly when out in public.

As for liking to build things with legos, that's fine. People are entitled to their interests. But with girls you should probably talk about subjects they are more likely to share a common interest in.

It's hard to explain. I know it isn't just. It isn't just cause she's nice. I...it's embarrassing. I think she...is nice. Like um other things. Yes other things I like. But nice is a good general term. So we understand what I mean.

I can control my repeating sometimes. If I look out for it. Like what I am trying to do with this message deleting extra sentences. I just get nervous and anxious. Nervous and anxious and then I can't control it. Especially when I am stressed out.

I'm going to be honest - mainstream highschool girls don't want to date boys in special ed. Some of the more confident girls will be friendly, but there is no romantic interest.

I was an insecure teenage girl once, too.

This doesn't mean there is no hope for you though. I was in the same place as you with what looks like (OCD?) at your age. You can get medication to help with OCD and anxiety.

Also as you get older you will meet a wider variety of people.

I wouldn't worry too much. Just don't take it to heart.

maaaaaybe she is pitying you but that is not my experience with that age girl. they don't usually hang around people to make others feel better, they usually do and say what they want. she probably see's you as a smart reject, she probably see's herself as the same way. what would happen if you both admitted you liked each other? are you really ready to start making out and dry humping each other? 14, probably not. so why even address the issue. just tell her you really enjoy her company and keep hanging out with her. be her friend, it's all that will happen anyway so stop stressing. also feel free to pm me.

Ewww. Just cause I like her. Eww. I just. Ew.

My big brother when he was fourteen he went out with a girl. Me and him are no the same on the spectrum measurement. We're not the same. But still there was no dry humping involved with him. I just wanted to see if she liked to go to the movies with me. My big brother took a girl he liked to the movies once.

Still eww. Ick.

if you want a way to broach the subject of spending time with her outside of school hours maybe somebody here could offer advice as i've probably corrupted you too much already. but don't ask her to the movies, because thats usually asking if you want to go to a make-out session. just ask her over after school to do homework together or something like watch some epz you both enjoy