So how can I tell if a girl is an aspie?

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Wølfmaster here,

How can I tell if a girl is an aspie? If I date one she would not have to ask questions about certain things related to AS. I am so freaking lonely nowadays.

It's hard to tell, since they're all crazy.

"And this is how Jory, perplexed and frustrated a good chunk of the WP forum users..."

Seriously though, recognizing AS in girls can be quite tricky and I'm not sure I can give great advice. Girls tend to be better at blending and hiding AS traits because for some weird reason people expect men and women to act differently. For me recognizing AS traits in people is instinctive, and the problem lies in the whole Tony Attwood puzzle piece explanation whereby recognizing a trait doesn't necessarily denote recognizing a closet or undiagnosed Aspie.

But as for a might-work might-not perseveration acid test. Try having a conversation about what they are most passionate to talk about and see how long they keep talking?

I’m trying to use emoticons more, so people know when I’m joking.

I never know if it's working.

Well hey I always chuckle at the crap you post anyway haha

I'm strongly suspecting that my wife of 16 years is on the spectrum. I started strongly suspecting myself in late 2009, read up on it constantly, and just now starting to see signs of it in her.

And I'm still not sure. I know her better than I know any human being on Earth (which, since I'm AS and all, isn't saying a whole lot, but still), and I'm still not sure whether she's on the spectrum or not. A number of guys I can point to and say that they're definitely on the spectrum, but with girls it is a lot harder.

Lol, nice.

I am an aspie girl, and it is about as easy as telling if a boy is an aspie...you just gotta go with whoever you interact with the best, If it's an aspie girl.... good for you...if she is NT....it's not the end of the world.

Please allow me to remind you that offensive posts arent welcome here and that the way to deal with them isnt replying to the member that made them but contacting the mods about it(if you keep answering chances are someone else will post something offensive about the opposite gender and we´d have to send a tos reminder to two members/a gender flame war will start and several members will get a reminder/warning).

As for the OP theres no way of telling which girls are aspie unless you are thinking about asking them and I wouldnt suggest that because they might start thinking that you have some sort of fetish regarding as and they wont go out with you because nobody wants to go out with someone that only sees them as a psychological label

I was joking, as was, I think he mentioned that he was joking too. But sorry...didn't mean anything by it.

Hmmm I imagine this may be a case of overanalysis...

Its more of a case of this place being unattended for too long and some people have been taking advantage of that and Im trying to make it clear that this place is no longer unattended.

Having said that you are more than free to think whatever you want about me as long as you dont express your opinion by insults(also against the rules)

As for the other members the rules state that you cant post sexism and imo a post that mentions sexism to make a joke about it is still mentioning sexism and it gives out the idea that we arent taking things seriously. If anyone disagrees Im more than willing to discuss this things.

Aspies are different from each other. Some you will pick easily, others not.

Some of us can pretend normal pretty good, but even then, hang out with us for a while and the reality will slowly emerge.

If she goes on and on about one subject and you change the subject which she responds back but then goes back to the first subject because she didn't feel she went into as much details as she had liked.. might be an aspie.

Doesn't get jokes easily. Might laugh at odd humor but not "So this guy walked into a bar" type of joke. She won't pretend to laugh but may also point out some parts of the joke she didn't understand like "How could the guy walk into a bar when it turned out he was in a wheelchair?"

You get to know the person. You may notice strange habits like stimming with her hands (rubbing palms and arm or strange hand movements) or just standing there stiff with no movement, twirling hair alot while talking, very sensitive to lights or certain sounds that you wouldn't imagine were that bad. Little eye contact but might be staring at your forehead or your lips. Not liking bright lights and certain sounds that most people can tolerate.

You may notice some of the other women picking up on her being abnormal and deciding to be vicious in their own little subtle way like spreading rumors about her and talking behind her back but playing up being nice to her face. She's treated as an outcast.

Has hobbies which does not include reality tv shows and drama.

Despises fads and doesn't understand why people are so prone to re-inventing themselves. It's fake.

Answers your questions in a lengthy manner providing as many details as possible unless not in the mood to talk.