How to get to know a girl?

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There is a girl in my class I would be interested in becoming friends with.

I need some advice on how to walk up to this girl and talk to her.

I wouldn't say I'm awkward around girls, but I would say that I need to know how to start a conversation with one. I would appreciate some advice.

How old are you? I'm not sure if advice would apply to each age group. I'm guessing you've tried small talk, but I'm going to list that anyway (you know how NTs are suckers for it). When I first meet someone, I usually ask the basics. If you find that you have trouble finding time to talk to her, ask her if she wants to sit with you at lunch.

*What music are you into?

*Do you play any sports?

*What are your hobbies?

Say she says "alternative" at the first question. If you aren't familiar with the genre, ask what artists she likes and why alternative music happens to be her preference and talk about your own interests (let's say you like rock music). Ask if she's familiar with artists that you happen to like (what if you only know obscure bands?) or you could b***h about modern music (e.g. Top 40s).

What if you aren't a sports person but she is (or the other way around)? Differences are just as much fun to talk about as similarities.

Hobbies? If either of you mention a rather unusual one, you could go into a pretty interesting conversation. Not so interesting ones? Then talk about hobbies that you never understood why people did them. Or talk about things neither of you understand in general. Another alternative is ask her about things you don't understand that she could offer her perspective on.

Well, there's my two cents worth.

NEVER ask a woman how old she is. Women do not appreciate being asked about their age. You can start with hello and a smile, ask her how she is doing, and tell her your name. Then you can use the questions provided above. Just remember to do one question at a time, pay attention to the answer, looking at her all the time (to her face, not her body), and contribute telling her about you. For example, if you ask her about the music she likes and she says xxx, you can tell her about the music you like and try to find common ground in your tastes. I wish you all the luck.

So why are you interested in her?

You - "Hi."
Her - "Hi."
You - <ask random question about something you know interests her>
Her - "OMG YOU"RE SO COOL! Let's, like, totally be friends!"

Okay, so it won't go down quite like that but most likely close enough.

1. Walk up to her.

2. Talk to her.

Anything else?

"Fnord sent me".

Seriously though, if she is in your class, ask her if she's figured out how to get the answer to a particular homework question. Then ask her if she would explain it over coffee - your treat. She will know anyway that you're trying to hit on her, but it's good to keep up pretenses at the start.