Can Love at first site be in your head?

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I moved away from home for a year and recently moved back. A year ago, October I met a girl at an outlet mall where she worked at a clothing store. I'm trying to figure out if this was Love at first site or an anomaly in my brain. We spoke for like twenty minutes and later exchanged numbers. I remember looking into her eyes and feeling amazing, I was going through a new age movement at the time, so this may have influenced my perception. She immediately facebooked me that day. I was having a rough time as I was living alone, going to school and had other stuff going on, but I dunno, I was like scared or something. Come to find out she is a model on the side, and a really good one at that. She wanted to hang out and I kind of blew it, I was really self conscious and dating a girl who really wasn't my type. Anyways we are back and touch and she is like the sweetest person ever. I think about her everyday and I have told her nothing of it. My heart palpates when I think of her. I know it sounds weird, I'm just wondering if my mind has possibly built her up to more than it is. She's still interested in hanging out and I really think she may have similar feelings. I don't want to say I'm obsessed, because I'm not, it's just like she holds a special place in my heart and I think about her some during the day. Has anyone felt similarly to this? How would you bring something like this up? She lives about an hour and a half away and I'm supposed to visit next month. When I do visit, should I bring flowers even though we haven't established it as a date? I'm not sure if I'm just venting a bit or what, it isn't as bothersome as it is perplexing. Thanks in advance for feedback.

Perhaps your spirit, soul, fate, whatsoever is trying to communicate "Yes, go for her, she's highly important for you and your life!"

However, i wouldn't come up with it yet. Take some time to get to know each other and have a good time together. If your friendship deepens, there should come a time to talk about, or she might broach the topic.

Experience shows that flowers are always welcome.

While I don't think you should do anything out of the ordinary, whatever that's supposed to be, I strongly entertain the view that there is such things as love at first sight. One of my friends is married with a woman, which was his first girlfriend ever, and he always, ALWAYS told us from the beginning that the moment he saw her, he knew she was the one. And she told her friends the same thing, and even though they are a couple for over 30 years now, they are still in love. Without wanting to sound overly emotional or romantic, but I do think it is something very rare and precious. Maybe you are as lucky as they are, and I'll keep my fingers crossed.

hmm, this is just my opinion at this very moment (ive been moody as of late) so it may sound off but don't scare her away with your love. just have fun, an if she wants to escalate it to that level then fine but the closer the distance between your expectations and reality the better your life will be. It doesn't mean that you love at first sight doesn't exist, or that this isn't it, all I'm saying is to go ahead and go out with her, have fun, but when it comes to love, wait for the opportune moment. And yes... I've had people make me feel that way before and it feels amazing. Skip the flowers, a warm embracing hug will be good enough

It's something you'll only really know in retrospect. Mutual attraction feels great even if it's just someone you're spending one night with.

Though with my gf, I did have a strange feeling. I saw her picture in an employee directory and it had some effect on me. I caught myself looking at it several times a day until I met her. It was vaguely hypnotic. Soon after we met we were together and have been so for 14 years.

Before that I was not a relationship or stick around kind of guy.