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13 Aug 2011, 3:08 pm

I am hearing such things from taken girls (real life, not online) or sometimes older women all my life:
"I would date you if I were single"
"I'd envy whoever become your girlfriend"
"I envy your future wife"
"Your girlfriend would be a lucky"
"There's nothing missing about you, any girl would want you" (whoa! that was too much).


Have you ever heard such things from female taken/friends/relative? And seriously, how valid are these claims? For some reason I feel they're exaggerating and not being totally affront, If there's any validity in those claims then I wouldn't have remained my entire life single till to this age, been always rejected and never been getting any single girl's attention/interest , if they were all valid then I would have a line of girls waiting on my doorstep, but there's nothing there but that annoying rat that he keeps sneaking in and leaving disgusting mess behind. Grrr..... and the glue trap isn't working.

PS: I just want to stress on the point that those are usually said out of the blue, I never discuss about my relationship problems with people (in real life) out there nor I show any signs of frustration about it, never.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:20 pm

ive heard some before. Total BS.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:22 pm

No, I've never heard that, strangely enough. :hmph:



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13 Aug 2011, 3:22 pm

Yeah, I've heard them too. But when they became single "I don't want to ruin out friendship"..... ah, ok. I'm married now so I don't have to deal with that crap anymore.


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13 Aug 2011, 3:22 pm

MXH wrote:
ive heard some before. Total BS.


In my case, it's rat sh** :lol:.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:33 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am hearing such things from taken girls (real life, not online) or sometimes older women all my life:
"I would date you if I were single"
"I'd envy whoever become your girlfriend"
"I envy your future wife"
"Your girlfriend would be a lucky"
"There's nothing missing about you, any girl would want you" (whoa! that was too much).


Have you ever heard such things from female taken/friends/relative? And seriously, how valid are these claims? For some reason I feel they're exaggerating and not being totally affront, If there's any validity in those claims then I wouldn't have remained my entire life single till to this age, been always rejected and never been getting any single girl's attention/interest , if they were all valid then I would have a line of girls waiting on my doorstep, but there's nothing there but that annoying rat that he keeps sneaking in and leaving disgusting mess behind. Grrr..... and the glue trap isn't working.


To me this has always been a polite way of saying 'You're an awesome friend,but I'm not attracted to you in the romantic sense"
Not trying to get you down,but this is always been the way it's turned out for me when women friends say this to me.
but who know...women are very different emotionally and have various ways of expressing themselves so I guess ya never know.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:34 pm

gtw1983 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am hearing such things from taken girls (real life, not online) or sometimes older women all my life:
"I would date you if I were single"
"I'd envy whoever become your girlfriend"
"I envy your future wife"
"Your girlfriend would be a lucky"
"There's nothing missing about you, any girl would want you" (whoa! that was too much).


Have you ever heard such things from female taken/friends/relative? And seriously, how valid are these claims? For some reason I feel they're exaggerating and not being totally affront, If there's any validity in those claims then I wouldn't have remained my entire life single till to this age, been always rejected and never been getting any single girl's attention/interest , if they were all valid then I would have a line of girls waiting on my doorstep, but there's nothing there but that annoying rat that he keeps sneaking in and leaving disgusting mess behind. Grrr..... and the glue trap isn't working.


To me this has always been a polite way of saying 'You're an awesome friend,but I'm not attracted to you in the romantic sense"
Not trying to get you down,but this is always been the way it's turned out for me when women friends say this to me.
But who know...women are very different emotionally and have various ways of expressing themselves so I guess ya never know.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:37 pm

Yes, I've heard it. I've also been told "If you weren't taken....."

People want what they can't have. :shrug:


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13 Aug 2011, 3:39 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
People want what they can't have. :shrug:


And when they can have it they don't want it, not really.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:41 pm

Tequila wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
People want what they can't have. :shrug:


And when they can have it they don't want it, not really.


Sometimes.


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13 Aug 2011, 3:45 pm

gtw1983 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am hearing such things from taken girls (real life, not online) or sometimes older women all my life:
"I would date you if I were single"
"I'd envy whoever become your girlfriend"
"I envy your future wife"
"Your girlfriend would be a lucky"
"There's nothing missing about you, any girl would want you" (whoa! that was too much).


Have you ever heard such things from female taken/friends/relative? And seriously, how valid are these claims? For some reason I feel they're exaggerating and not being totally affront, If there's any validity in those claims then I wouldn't have remained my entire life single till to this age, been always rejected and never been getting any single girl's attention/interest , if they were all valid then I would have a line of girls waiting on my doorstep, but there's nothing there but that annoying rat that he keeps sneaking in and leaving disgusting mess behind. Grrr..... and the glue trap isn't working.


To me this has always been a polite way of saying 'You're an awesome friend,but I'm not attracted to you in the romantic sense"
Not trying to get you down,but this is always been the way it's turned out for me when women friends say this to me.
but who know...women are very different emotionally and have various ways of expressing themselves so I guess ya never know.


Well, I don't get these in that scenario, as I said those are said by taken/married girls and not by a some single female friend that I happen trying to approach her.
But it's still make sense, it's all sugar-coating, and no you didn't get me down because I am quite aware those are just that: sugar-coating, I wasn't hoping it would be otherwise. The down to earth results, past and current state show much more reality than those claims.



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13 Aug 2011, 3:51 pm

Here's the best one of ever. Had a great female friend, we did a lot of stuff together, were equally weird so on and so on. Ask her out "You're not enough of an as*hole for me"....... I kinda felt good about that one but, I mean, REALLY? Well after a few years of knowing her I learned it was true, she really only dated A**holes.


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13 Aug 2011, 3:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
gtw1983 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am hearing such things from taken girls (real life, not online) or sometimes older women all my life:
"I would date you if I were single"
"I'd envy whoever become your girlfriend"
"I envy your future wife"
"Your girlfriend would be a lucky"
"There's nothing missing about you, any girl would want you" (whoa! that was too much).


Have you ever heard such things from female taken/friends/relative? And seriously, how valid are these claims? For some reason I feel they're exaggerating and not being totally affront, If there's any validity in those claims then I wouldn't have remained my entire life single till to this age, been always rejected and never been getting any single girl's attention/interest , if they were all valid then I would have a line of girls waiting on my doorstep, but there's nothing there but that annoying rat that he keeps sneaking in and leaving disgusting mess behind. Grrr..... and the glue trap isn't working.


To me this has always been a polite way of saying 'You're an awesome friend,but I'm not attracted to you in the romantic sense"
Not trying to get you down,but this is always been the way it's turned out for me when women friends say this to me.
but who know...women are very different emotionally and have various ways of expressing themselves so I guess ya never know.


Well, I don't get these in that scenario, as I said those are said by taken/married girls and not by a some single female friend that I happen trying to approach her.
But it's still make sense, it's all sugar-coating, and no you didn't get me down because I am quite aware those are just that: sugar-coating, I wasn't hoping it would be otherwise. The down to earth results, past and current state show much more reality than those claims.


Agreed..it's just the typical sugarcoated politeness we expect of friends and family in everyday life.
Another thought I've had is that while it is always possible one of them might actually fancy you (married/taken people still seem to flirt quite a lot) ;when people already in a romance say this kinda thing it's considered a 'safe' statement.

Meaning it's supposed to not only help you self esteem,but they will not have to back it up because well...they're taken.
Lol..how many times have we heard of poor hopeful guys that got this line from a female friend,only to have her say "Oh...I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship";when you actually suggested hooking up when she left her ex?



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13 Aug 2011, 4:01 pm

gtw1983 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
gtw1983 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am hearing such things from taken girls (real life, not online) or sometimes older women all my life:
"I would date you if I were single"
"I'd envy whoever become your girlfriend"
"I envy your future wife"
"Your girlfriend would be a lucky"
"There's nothing missing about you, any girl would want you" (whoa! that was too much).


Have you ever heard such things from female taken/friends/relative? And seriously, how valid are these claims? For some reason I feel they're exaggerating and not being totally affront, If there's any validity in those claims then I wouldn't have remained my entire life single till to this age, been always rejected and never been getting any single girl's attention/interest , if they were all valid then I would have a line of girls waiting on my doorstep, but there's nothing there but that annoying rat that he keeps sneaking in and leaving disgusting mess behind. Grrr..... and the glue trap isn't working.


To me this has always been a polite way of saying 'You're an awesome friend,but I'm not attracted to you in the romantic sense"
Not trying to get you down,but this is always been the way it's turned out for me when women friends say this to me.
but who know...women are very different emotionally and have various ways of expressing themselves so I guess ya never know.


Well, I don't get these in that scenario, as I said those are said by taken/married girls and not by a some single female friend that I happen trying to approach her.
But it's still make sense, it's all sugar-coating, and no you didn't get me down because I am quite aware those are just that: sugar-coating, I wasn't hoping it would be otherwise. The down to earth results, past and current state show much more reality than those claims.


Agreed..it's just the typical sugarcoated politeness we expect of friends and family in everyday life.
Another thought I've had is that while it is always possible one of them might actually fancy you (married/taken people still seem to flirt quite a lot) ;when people already in a romance say this kinda thing it's considered a 'safe' statement.

Meaning it's supposed to not only help you self esteem,but they will not have to back it up because well...they're taken.


True, sometimes I wish if they just kept their mouths shut and said nothing of this :p.



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13 Aug 2011, 4:29 pm

I hate it when someone doesn't spit what they have on their mind out. I'm used to taking rude behaviour so I'd be okay with rejection. They think they are doing me a favor being polite saying such things argh!



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13 Aug 2011, 4:36 pm

Even I, the most pessimistic/paranoid person I know on this subject, can't figure out anything sinister in those statements, not even a white lie to protect your feelings.

I think we may have to consider the possibility that they actually were sincere...