Too Busy to Have a Relationship

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At current I have been seeing a woman. I adore her in every way possible. She's funny, stunning, and smart too. She doesn't fit the typical role of a female, she refuses to be girly, an opposition that she takes very strictly. So far I have at least been able to see her once a week. But she is sleadily becoming too busy to have a relationship with me.

Everything seems to foil what we plan. She's in university and has a paid job as well. I am in college and I am looking for a job. But I want to see her more than when we are seeing each other. But several times homework and even job has been date blocking me. Every time we plan something, something or someone has to come up.

I understand and respect life obligations, I have them as well. I just wish they wouldn't get in between our romantic moments. It's kind of um awkward, when I am about to tell her something and then she has an emergency. I do not want to fault her, I understand her mother is sick and in the hospital. I brought her mother a get well card and flowers.

But I feel disconnected. It's like I like her, but we don't have enough interaction or our interaction is left hanging so my emotions are left hanging. I am afraid to tell her this because then she may feel that I am not being respectful to her or feel I am accusing or judging her. And I am not. I respect and accept and even support that her life can be busy, she has many obligations and I cannot be the only obligation in her life. But I'd love to get closer to her. And I mean through conversation and getting to know her personality better, her quirks, etc.

Maybe try emails. Or notes or letters or even Facebook or whatever. If you click, you'll both enjoy reading and responding to the letters.

Just a thought. I don't really have that problem SOOOO i may not have the best advic for it lol

There are always ways of maintaining a relationship when life throws monkey wrench after monkey wrench into the mix, if both sides are so inclined.

Have you tried sending random texts just to say silly things like "you're sexy"? Leave notes expressing your desire for her? Small gifts here and there just to let her know you think about her when you two aren't spending time together?

Life can get crazy, but I am adamant that if both parties are serious about wanting a relationship, they will find ways of keeping the flame alive and burning. Even if you two can't see each other as often as you would like.

I think you should print out your original post, and give it to her. It expresses everything you feel, and it is clear in showing your understanding of her situation. It is touching as well.

I think it's wonderful that you want to be closer to her even as you understand what is providing obstacles. Good luck with everything.