Do you enjoy constant physical contact with your SO?

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I've had one person on the spectrum tell me that she does not get the point of non-sexual physical contact like hugging or kissing. Another told me that she only enjoys it once in a while. I'm interested in this as I am pretty much constantly attached to my boyfriend. He feels the need to always be in physical contact with me and I like it that way. I am into deep pressure and he knows it... but we touch each other pretty much non-stop, regardless of whether we're in public or not. My boyfriend is also on the spectrum.

I am curious as to whether anyone else here actually enjoys such continuous physical contact. If so, this could be an interesting rebuttal to the popular "cold and loveless" stereotype of people on the spectrum. My boyfriend insists that the only reason why he feels so comfortable with me is because we are both on the spectrum.

I love physical contact as well. No touch aversion issues.

I love physical contact. What I don't love is the inevitable horse crap that follows, as if somehow I'm indebted to her because she let me touch her. I know not all people are like that...but a good number of people are. I won't say most people because I don't want to offend the trolls on here, but I've met a LOT of people in my life, and quite frankly most of them piss me off, so I try not to go out much. I think part of the reason I like physical contact is because of what it symbolizes to me, which is that this person is pretty relaxed and not super uptight.

My boyfriend loves physical contact, probably even more than me. He's on the spectrum; I am not.

He loves it when I initiate touch, sexual or nonsexual, and loves being held.

I can get cuddly but it's rare. Honestly, I prefer not to be touched much by anyone. I have even been known to have to tell my kids no to hugs so I didn't freak out on them.

Same here. Have been cuddly once or twice, and did not feel uncomfortable. But other than that, not really. Touch me, you die, is my regular motto.

I love to cuddle...my first experience with the love drug,I layed my head on my girl friends lap and she ran her hands through my hair...felt amazing. I love touching, and hugging regardless of if its sexual or not.

I have to agree with this very much. I do like the feeling of just being able to touch someone openly, without having to think of any sort of expectations, particularly social expectations. I could see myself touching a woman A LOT for a while too, once I get into my first relationship.

And to address the OP's comment about "cold and loveless", I sometimes feel as if my need to touch has to do with needing a lot of touch to produce any feeling of "love" or "connection" at all. And even then, it's just satisfying a need, and doesn't necessarily mean I will be able to even fully understand what love is about. But touch gets me as close to understanding that as I feel I will ever be, if that makes sense.

No, I don't enjoy constant physical contact with my Senior Officer. Who would?

I'm not normally a touchy-feely sort of person, but I'm so into it when it comes to my SO and friends that I'm very comfortable with. I only get physical, so to speak, with people that I place a very high level of trust in.

Oddly, that excludes my family. I trust them, but I've always been awkward about being touchy-feely with them.

I have only had this once before except my kids. I am not a snuggly person and prefer not to be touched. Sometimes like TEGH my kids i also can't touch.

It is a shock to my system actually enjoying this person's touch. I now know why people want to hug and kiss out in public when usually i am all :/

This is a paradox for me...I have a deep desire for physical contact, and believe I would be the sort who holds hands and cuddles a lot., arm over my SO shoulder when we walk. Yeah, I imagine myself doing this.

But for reasons unrelated (at least directly) to AS, I have trouble with physical contact. The two feelings struggle profoundly within me

Not constant contact, especially while sleeping. I like to hold hands when we're walking together because it makes me less self-conscious about my motor problems and I like to cuddle for relatively short periods, but mostly I like intact personal space.

This in no way reflects my actual fondness for the person, though.

touch is a bit gross from people i don't know but meh its tolerable. feather light hovering near/over me so i can only just feel it is intolerable from anybody. either touch me and stay touching me or f**k off! sheesh. Also touch is one of the five love languages, so if your express love by touch instead of acts of service, gift giving, affirming words, or quality time then of course you will touch your SO and like to be touched. I don't think it has as much to do with autism (when dealing with people you like) than people think it does. my SO does need touch to feel loved so when she's spending quality time with me and making me feel loved then i make a conscious decision to touch her and make her feel loved.

My Aspie husband and daughter also LOVE physical contact. They seem to need physical contact, demostrations of love, all the time. I am the NT and sometimes I feel overwhelmed because I am not that affectionate. Sometimes they feel too needy to me. I have to constant remind myself to touch them, hug them, kiss them, because if I dont they feel I do not love them.

I'd love it (And do love it) when people initiate physical contact with me. Just a great feeling overall, for various different reasons.