missed an opportunity today....

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was at the supermarket, and the aisle I walked down this girl was exiting. She was in the middle of the aisle, she looked at me and I think said excuse me, and I said "Your taking up the whole aisle" in a joking way, and she smiled and she had braces on, and it looked pretty inviting, but at that second I just completely blanked out and kept walking.

For the next while, I felt like bashing my head in, I missed out on an opportunity to chat up a cute girl if nothing else. I have feeling she was definitely single, although I don't know for sure, but how many girls are just shopping by themselves like that?

She couldn't have been more than 18 or 19, and what I said put a smile on her face, I just wish I could have followed up and said something.

It seems obvious now, I should have complimented her smile. But man I just blanked out so bad I didn't know what to do.......damn

Why does everything always have to a romantic subtext? It was just a nice girl being nice. Nothing more.

I feel you bro, there will be more opportunities though. This cute girl dropped her wallet while getting into the car the other day and I flagged her down and gave it to her without saying a word except "ok". lol, it happens but you'll meet more. Troy, I don't think he implied at all that it would've been a when harry met sally monumental moment, just that it was a possibility to speak with a cute girl.

Its situations like that, that don't come around very often, but if you take control and actually get through, you might meet your new girlfriend right? Who knows, but if you can't get that conversation going, nothing will ever come from it.

A young cute girl, and a young guy(me), I mean girls are looking for guys too right? If only we werent so tongue-tied and shy.

my problems are self confidence and moodiness mainly, they usually correlate. talking to older women has helped me a bit. I'm 21 and older women i've spoken with, seem to be more assertive and I don't feel like I have to work as hard. Like this 28 yr old girl in my class got my number and asked me out today lol, she's pretty cute too. Don't be afraid to play the field a bit. it's hard because I often feel like I have to impress women my age b/c other guys are so douschy(sp?) lol. Yea man, just keep on keepin on. If all else fails, there is always the D.E.N.N.I.S. system http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7u391z5l6WY

Thats cool dude, maybe she will teach you I have said this alot before, but I really have had alot of chances, alot of girls have liked me and approached me, but I just wasn't secure enough to handle it. I just wasn't confident in that way, and I was basically scared of girls. There were so many times I regret, but I cannot go backwards, only forwards.

Hopefully now, after working out. lifting weights, and doing some muy thai boxing I will feel more confidence. I can already feel a little bit more already, but it doesn't mean I can just start and hold a conversation.

My mind just blanks.....like there were some obvious things I could have said to that girl, compliments and all. I think she was interested. I mean as long as she finds me reasonably attractive, which I think I am, and I am not out of shape by any means

There are two things I try to remind myself on this subject.

1.-I and a woman I am trying to get to know are just two human beings. She does not represent the entire female population.

2.- The fact that I am viewing the situation from my perspective makes it hard to see the situation objectively. I try to imagine someone else looking at her and me and thinking: "These two could make each other happy. Why not?"

Remember that these people also have terrible episodes while using the toilet. A nice way to remind yourself that this is just another human individual you're talking to. Lest the thought put you off, more then it made you relax.

lol you call this casual supermarket encounter an opportunity? if that's the case, then I am missing 100s of "opportunities" everyday.

I is impossible for us to know how much of an opportunity it was since we weren't there to see the facial expression and body language of the young lady.

It looked pretty inviting from my view, then again I already thought she was cute to begin with. I almost never see a girl that is attractive just shopping by herself, in fact how often do I see an attractive girl like that anyway?

Usually they will have friends or boyfriend. She could have had a bf and maybe already taken. I don't know but it was the perfect opportunity to see chat her up.

Face of Boo > without a giant social life/circle, and without being in school, what else would you call an opportunity? How the hell are you supposed to meet someone if you don't take charge in situations like that?