nobody ever does these things to the degree listed. dunno why these silly bloggers need to speak in such extremes. i.e. a man who cooks and does the eashing-up (even every night) is not a "kitchen b***h". he's a man who cooks. such exaggeration.
about three quarters of these apply only to LTRs, and "game" doesn't apply to LTRs, obviously. these bloggers have such an issue wth knowing how to focus on their audience.
anything in extremes will turn a person off, and usually people have no problems moderating. so keeping in mind that human beings don't behave in extremes as listed ever, the things i have included below work on me, or at least don't upset me in any way. i do all of these same things, myself, in an applicable LTR.
i've reworded them to reflect how humans actually act in the real world, instead of that man's strange fantasy:
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Often remind her how happy you are to be with her.
Laugh at your own jokes when she laughs.
Laugh at her jokes.
Talk about people and their lives to a small degree.
Put up with her sh** just like she puts up with your sh**.
Ask yes or no or one-word answer type questions when warranted.
Ask her if she has a condom.
Cuddle her so long that she is the one to first start wriggling free. (YES PLEASE)
Fidget or talk fast when nervous, lean in, keep up your end of the conversation.
Talk often about the state of the relationship.
Discuss your life and any issues you have when they come up.
Be enthusiastic when she tells you about something cool she did.
Be impressed with her educational credentials and career success.
Sympathize that exes are exes for a reason.
Fall into a rhythm of sex frequency that works for both of you.
Be honest if you are getting jealous.
Let her know that she is a wonderful addition to your life.
Cook and clean up at least some of the time, according to your mutual chore agreement. If you love cooking, embrace it.
Do activities together that you both like, and sometimes act as her "plus one" in events that don't interest you (she will too).
Be open to the idea that neither of you are perfect, and work on making adjustments to yourself as necessary.
Ask her if she “likes it this way” during lovemaking.
Have awesome sex of many types.
Show up on time or early for dates, or let her know if you will be late.
Skip on the way home after a “successful” date that did not end in sex.
Apologize when you d something wrong, whether she noticed what you did or not.
Support feminism.
Be honest about your porn activities.
Talk about pop culture sometimes, as far as your knowledge goes.
Make breakfast for her after the first night together. (that would be AWESOME, though we could cook together)
Deprecate yourself for a joke sometimes.
Sometimes join her plans and sometimes invite her to join your plans.
Touch her hair. (if someone is close enough to kiss me, i don't mind if they touch my hair)
Meet her friends whenever it feels right.
Wait in the same spot for her to return after she has told you she’ll be gone for ten minutes. Talk to no one while waiting.
Listen to her when she talks about her exes occasionally and vice versa.
Allow conversation to ebb and flow ad be an equal contributor/guide.
Sit with your legs crossed. (don't see why this would matter)
Be decisive sometimes, and sometimes defer to her.
Say "yes" as often as feasible.
some of these ones i agree with, some are peculiar, and some don't make sense:
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Stare, look away, stare, look away, stare, look away.
i dont understand this one, as there are extremely limited options as to how to look at a person. i don't seee how it would be better to stare all the time or look away all the time.
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Hold in farts around her until your colon bursts. (LTR applicable only.)
this one is so strange. why would i care if he holds in his farts?
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yes please, speak up.
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Spitefully berate her genuine accomplishments.
yes, it's better to be supportive.
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Make videos like this. (Suffice to say, this nauseating beta dweeb did not win his ex back, muscles and looks to the contrary notwithstanding.)
i don't care to watch the video, if it was linked.
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Go for the night-ending kiss, get denied, follow up by shouting at her as she’s leaving that you’ll call her. Make it a promise.
i don't understand this one - whch part is the promise, which part is what he should not do. it's too messy.
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Wanly smile when she denigrates you to her friends.
no person should put up with that kind of abuse. a relationship isn't worth getting crapped on.
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Turn to face her fully as soon as you open a girl. Stay that way while she continues giving you her profile.
not sure what this means.
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Follow her from bar to bar.
yes, don't be a stalker.
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Pine over, or disparage, your ex on a first date.
that would be silly indeed on a first date.
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Turn to face her fully as soon as you open a girl. Stay that way while she continues giving you her profile.
Buying girls drinks as a MEANS OF OPENING THEM.
Muck up cold reads until they sound like interrogations.
these are PUA bullshittery (thanks for the word, ValentineWiggin!). nothing else needs to be said.
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Sweat profusely from anything other than vigorous exercise, sex or fighting.
it's good to be prepared and wear pit-stick, but some people are sweatier than others. it can't always be helped.
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Fail every sh** test in spectacular fashion. (Example: vehemently deny you are the thing she says you are.)
s**t tests don't actually exist per se. the idea seems to have been invented by some men who have difficulty getting relationships off the ground. maybe they need a reason why things don't work out, and blame s**t tests. of course, some men become paranoid that women are setting little traps for them, when really... we are on the same side.
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Pick your nose and wipe the booger on her forehead. (Save this for the six month mark, at which point she’ll be too invested to do anything more than feebly complain.)
i think this one is a joke, though so many on the list were absurd i can't really tell.
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