Are most Aspie men not keen on texting or emailing?

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My aspie boyf is not brilliant at sending texts or emails. He will ALWAYS reply to mine, but other than being the first in the morning to send a 'Good Morning' text, its unlikely I will hear from him again all day.

Similarly with emails... I have asked him to send me an email occasionally, and whilst he always responds to mine, is rarely the first one of us to send one just off the cuff.

In spite of all this, he DOES say he thinks about me pretty much most of the time, and I have to agree with him, that not texting or emailing is not a sign that he is fed up of me or is not thinking about me, but it would be nice to hear from him when he gets in from work or when he's going to bed to say nite nite. We are not togehter much of the week, so keeping up via text/email really matters to me.

Is this an aspie trait? all my NT boyfs seem very keen to text a lot, but not my loving aspie?
p.s. speaking on the phone is a no-no.... he hates talking over the phone with a passion!

I prefer sending an email or text to talking on the phone. That said, I'm often very bad at replying because I tend to get distracted by whatever else I'm doing, and also because when I go to write an email, I second guess everything I write, and often end up getting frustrated and coming back to it later. With texts, I'm usually just unsure of how to respond.

Well, I would never text due to the fact that I don't and won't have a mobile phone. I do reply to e-mails and messages on here, though.

Oh My G*d I thought I was the only one! I hate talking on the phone. My answering machine picks up on my home line automatically after 1 or 2 rings and i never "run for it". However, I will if it is my bf (when I have one) or when someone I know calls me for only important things. I also have a cell phone with a text only plan. There is a 10cents a minute charge for phone calls so I do have the feature but I tell people it is text only (not exactly lying). Even when I talk to my bf, I am always excited because I love hearing from him but I worry that I will be boring or have nothing to say and he might lose interest.

Silly me, He has left me several messages on my phone since I've met him and even though we broke up for 2 months or so, I have saved them all. However on my cell I have a small capacity and have to erase messages. It is now between my kids telling me how much they love me (which I look at frequently) and his "Hi what's up?".

My point is, I never, never, ever make the first call. I have been this way as long as I remember. I can even remember asking my mother once when I was 10 if I could call my girlfriend and I spent days wondering when the right tiime would be and eventually forgot. All my significant others have had to do this, but it works out well usually. I hear guys hate to be chased.

I like texting/emailing more than talking on the phone too. If I need to tell someone some information, I'd much rather shoot it over in a text than have to call them and make small talk just so I can tell him the info.

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I hate texting. I just find it annoying. Phones I hate too because it pulls me away from what I am doing. I prefer IM chat, would that work with him?

As for email, maybe he doesn't know what to say to you in it.

I prefer anything over speaking on the phone. I tend to be too formal when texting; not many people text or email me though.

I greatly prefer texting, instant messaging, and e-mail to talking on the phone. I can think about what to say, edit myself, and best of all, it's acceptable to sit there and say nothing when you have nothing to say. When I'm on the phone with someone, unless we have something specific to talk about, I just sit there saying nothing and it feels incredibly awkward.

I tend to prefer e-mailing or texting to other forms of communication, since it gives to the time to think about what I am going to say.

Honestly, I can tell you for sure it's not at all him not caring about you. He's simply missing the simple social cue that you want/like to know that he's thinking about you.. it doesn't mean he doesn't care.

I personally wouldn't think about my lover "most of time", it seems excessive, Idk.
I focus intensely on one thing at a time so I wouldn't email my significant other much if I had one. I strongly prefer real-life contacts. I find it better not to text,email,phone,ect but then see each others and spend quality time.

I thought most Aspies would be keen on the idea of texting or emailing sense face-to-face conversation & talking on the phone can be quite difficult for us; lots of us prefer written or typed forums of communicating. I'm an Aspie guy who loves text & email & so does my Aspie girl; we probably sent each other close to four thousand text last month each.
Apsies sometimes need a lot of space in relationships OP; perhaps he wants to save the communication for when he's with you.