So this random girl wants to hang out with me

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I talked to her for around 10 minutes max, but was obviously charming her (let's call her Catlin). I asked Catlin if she wanted to come out and petition for this candidate with me as a date a couple months ago, but she missed the message as she has no internet at home and it was super short notice. Unfortunately, I have a girlfriend at the moment. Would it be completely uncool to hang out with Catlin for coffee (of course, my girlfriend can somewhat easily find out about this and is in an overlapping circle of friends). Note that my gf has cried when I talk to other girls in front of her.

I do like my girlfriend quite a bit, but she's 19 and lives in another world than I do at nearly 24. I have a feeling that once school starts, I'm gonna be old news. While I really do enjoy (at times) what I have going with my gf right now, I'm looking for something more long term. Catlin is my age, not bipolar, or insecure.

I think it is time to either break up with your girlfriend or advise her that you want to date her only casually and open up the relationship (in other words, you both of the option of dating other people).

You are not married to your current girlfriend. Although you mention that you enjoy some aspects of your current relationship - it sounds like she is insecure and not long term potential.

There is nothing wrong with casually dating as long as everyone is aware of the casual status. It would be unfair to your current girlfriend to allow her to believe that you are seeing only her and then see another person (e.g. Caitlin).

Either move on completely (i.e. break it off with your current girlfriend) or discuss changing your relationship with your current girlfriend as it doesn't sound very secure to begin with. Just keep in mind that your current girlfriend may not be open to a casual dating relationship if she "crie(s) when (you) talk to other girls in front of her."

Of the two options - I would lean towards ending the relationship with the current girlfriend completely and start dating others casually (including Caitlin).

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I think sneaking off on a date with another girl behind your girlfriend's back would be a very cowardly and selfish move. You are effectively planning on cheating on her.

All your posts about your girlfriend seem to be bitching and going on about how you want to dump her, find better etc. etc., so why not end it already? Give the poor girl a chance to find a decent guy who will respect her.

I'm not saying she's an easy person to live with, she sounds hard work, but that doesn't mean you should treat her like s**t.