IMing someone on Facebook

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If I IM a girl on facebook chat every now and then and she doens't respond, does this mean shes not interested in talking to me, or does it mean shes busy? And if shes busy, how would I know if I should try contacting her again without creeping her out?

If she has ignored you a few times in a row every time you IM her, then she probably isn't interested in you.

Personally, I don't care which one it is. I don't have time to waste on someone that isn't responding.

It means she is not interested in talking to you.

It's a waste of your time, yes it probably looks creepy or at least annoying to her. There are chances she will just keep ignoring you. If she was busy, surely she would say something and get back to you?

Either that or she hates facebook chat.
I don't talk to people on it because I can't be bothered (can't stand small talk) and I hate instant messengers.

I find, if you want to talk to someone badly enough, you will, even on IM or facebook chat.

Do you know her? I mean, properly? Because facebook is a bad way to pick people up without looking creepy.

Perhaps she prefers forms of communication other than IM.

I also hate facebook chat. I have mine turned off. Have you tried another way to communicate? I agree facebook is a bad way to try to date someone if you don't already know him or her.

~Kate

she may have been away from computer on each occasion, it is possible. i would poke or send a message in future ahead of commencing chat. i she responds to the message whilst still online then suggest chat. she then has the time to make her excuses and need to be somewhere else - or erm chat with you!

Their not interested. I have some from high school that messaged me one time after I added them to friend list. They don't even comment but that's okay I have others that comment and are far more fun. Your better off not wasting your time.

Shes just not that into you.

Most people I know say Facebook Chat is broken...I know people have messaged me, then asked why I didn't reply - but I honestly just never got the message. It's not a great way to communicate.

Agreed. It's just so easy for people to ignore you on them, without ever explicitly stating that they don't want to have anything to do with you. It's a poor substitute for face to face contact, where you at least have facial expressions and body language to guide you as to what they are thinking about you.

What I hate about them is the pressure to answer, or risk getting accused of "ignoring someone" or them "offending me" because I did not reply fast enough. Anyone who knows me knows I have a concentration and motivation problem. I don't need the extra stress of people throwing hissy fits.

That's why I love forums so much, you're free to answer in your own time with no pressure.

I don't like private messages either.

I don't know if this is the case for others, too, or the fact they just don't want to talk to you.