Feeling better after Sunday but I still feel confused.

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25 Sep 2012, 1:45 pm

http://www.oag.state.md.us/TDVquiz.pdf

It says that 89% of teens date. I saw somewhere else that 95% of 18 year olds have dated.

I'm 20 years old. I've never really dated, so am I behind?

And how do so many people in our society experience dating violence and sexual assault? A 20% rate makes us seem that the country is in a dangerous warzone.

I just don't understand where people get the time for dates. I took a lot of math-and-science courses in high school and now in college, so I never had time to hang out with people and find dates. Additionally, girls think I'm too boring, even introverted ones. I've never found a girl that I can relate to.



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25 Sep 2012, 2:49 pm

Seriously bud, the thing that I think helped me the most was that I turned into a good listener. Now, granted it got tedious at times just listening and commenting. But women like having someine to talk to. Start off there with and see if it helps. I don't pretend that this advice will solve all your problems, but it helped me.


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25 Sep 2012, 3:52 pm

How is it possible that so many people can find a date anyways? It's really competitive nowadays...



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25 Sep 2012, 4:11 pm

It's always been competetive. There are always going to be guys that want a girl that you are with, and there will be girls that want to be with you. You and your partner have to find a way to make yourself look like the strongest candidate for eachother. There will be underhanded tactics used by others, and there will be jerks. You just have to deal with it.



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25 Sep 2012, 7:03 pm

Competitive? Nah. You have to realize that >90% of guys are wimps. Ever been inside a nightclub? Notice how many guys are awkwardly sitting with their back to the wall, drink in hand. Watch how many guys never leave their group of friends to go talk to other girls. Very little "cold approaching" actually goes on, and much of it happens due to drunken behavior that doesn't get them anywhere.

Want to be competitive? Learn how to talk to female strangers and you'll be way ahead of the pack.



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25 Sep 2012, 9:37 pm

Palindrome: That sounds like valentines day at a bar actually, and I have been there on that particular day to witness the tragedy that was guys attempting to pick up.



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26 Sep 2012, 11:48 am

I did not get my first girl friend until I was 21. It just takes confidence and courage. Just try joining a club at your college.



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28 Sep 2012, 8:23 am

Wanderingronin42 wrote:
I did not get my first girl friend until I was 21. It just takes confidence and courage. Just try joining a club at your college.


Agreed. The more you make your self available the higher your chances and the more practice you get. I know its hard to get out of the house. I was a serious hermit/homebody for years. But, if dating is important then you have to make that change and decide to do it.


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