Disclosure Experiament

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I saw a post on here about someone who disclosed Aspergers on okcupid and was trying to see what happened. I put in the 'most private thing your willing to admit' section. I'm trying the same experiment. I put a random zip code from Boston MA which I'm not actually from. If anybody messages me, I'm not gonna reply. I'm just seeing if I still get messaged. I was straight-forward that Aspergers is a mild form of autism since most people don't know what Aspergers is. Otherwise, I wrote up my profile ordinarily describing myself.

What do you think? http://www.okcupid.com/profile/whispers808

I am a lot older than you so you can disregard this if you wish (you can anyway, but I'm giving you permission as well). But I would wait until I had reached the first layer of trust with an individual in person before assessing whether to disclose. I would not put it out there as the first obstacle because to those who haven't met AS yet it hands them on a plate the opportunity to react to what they think it means rather than something they know. You want to give yourself the widest possible exposure/possible field, yeah? Then don't filter out those who don't self-identify as weird-experimenting (on the whole, not good long-term options) before you get to ground zero.

let us know how it works out. did you put up pictures? can't see from my phone. i had a profile on there and hinted to my AS as a series of clues, and told people i'd be impressed if they could figure out what i have. it sort of forced them to research it themselves so they'd know what they were getting into. it worked pretty well as i could identify people who read my profile. got lots of messages BUT was looking for FWB (which is like the holy grail on OKC and not comparable to dating results)


EDIT: just wanted to note that i didn't ever achieve anywhere near the response of other females from WP on OKC according to their reports of how many messages they received.

Hey, if it works tangentially to educate Boston-area men about Aspergers, I'm all for it!

- Boston resident

It won't make any difference, guys will keep messaging as the same. Normal guys usually don't freak out easily and don't focus on details that they wouldn't understand (ie AS), most would dismiss it, unless if you talk more about AS on your profile.



You might get little more messages due to your post here but not due to your disclosure.

nerdy people are often terrible grammar/spelling nazis so you might want to run that through spell check if nerds are your target. I've noticed a whole bunch of errors, that might put some people off.

(not criticising, just a suggestion. hey look, i can't even capitalise properly! )

I think this disclosure is more likely to frighten the men away:

and am very passionate about LGBT rights

83% Match
85% Friend
18% Enemy

I think the disclosure of atheism and LGBT is what would decrease the received messages rate far more than the disclosure of AS/Autism.


But of course, you wouldn't want to be with someone who can't tolerate those.

hounsty i declose my autism on dating pages and i do not see a diffecnce between the amount meassages i gotten when i put autism on my page. must people today do not really care if you have autism or not. so it should not effect if someone wants be frinds with you or date you. people are a little more open minded. unless your odd sytoums are really out there for the world to see.

I do have to admit this experiment is making me very nervous but heres the update. I got messaged by 5 guys today and one said that I was being too honest. I had 46 people look at my profile, and this is probably the most amount of people Ive ever had look at my profile, tho granted probably like 10 of them were from wrongplanet. I dont actually know. But I took the aspergers out because Im getting very nervous about leaving it in. Well anyways, cancel experiment