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Heck, I don't know where to begin.
Do you feel like a lot of males and females would avoid you for whatever reason they could?
Does it feel unfair that anyone you see that you like are taken?
If you have been in love, does your past relationship(s) get in the way?
Can you feel alone?
Are you feeling like an outsider that's ignored?
Do you have a voice that wants to be heard?
Let me assure you that you have a voice even if you can not speak. So, don't stop yourself from saying how you feel.

Like this can help.

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Yes I feel like an outsider all the time-I went to a picnic where at the end I got not even a handshake or a thank you for coming but the person I went with got from the host-"oh I have to give every one of my guests a hug"-that made me feel like a nothing. I have even walked up to people at the same party and they turn away and no one walked up to me to even talk to me and the only reason someone talked to me was they had no choice but to sit next to me to eat their dessert-which some of it I brought to the party.-I feel people just cant get past the way I look to get to know me-I am feeling like a broken defective person and I just can't figure out how not to be-it hurts so much and people keep telling-"not everybody turns away and if they turn away they aren't worth knowing anyway" well when everyone turns away and I see that they all do because I am there and it happens to me-I will always be lonely I guess.

@Giftorcurse - I never said about solving them all.

@Radiofixr - Well I doubt that everyone ignores you. Does anyone you know as a friend have another friend. With one friend follows many others down this path. If they want to know why then tell your friend how you feel as you have said here. Telling them will help them understand.

What's that all about? The OP is just offering a chance to talk and commiserate.

Ok, I ll try to give it a go without joking this time:

The upper side of my back...the center of my pain.... oh yea...I really need that...

*waking up*

oops sorry, let's go on.




Yes.




I don't feel it's unfair but more like I wonder how it would be like, and I wonder why I am not like them.




There's no past real relationships.




Sometimes, yes.




Yes.





Huh?

No, I don't like to talk about my problems in real life.



Right now, I am feeling a bit lost.

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yes, he was asked to edit his post to remove the personal attack.

My supposed friend that I went to the party with is the one when I brought it up told me about not liking me because of my looks and personality-and is a fellow aspie. If you don't like me because of my looks and personality why do you even want me as a friend-whats left.

Why not think I don't have to be anyone else because they are not worth the time. Also, you don't open up to others in real life out of fear or how you would be perceived. It's important to break that barrier as I did, it is possible.

The OP post made me feel worse

Its called the law of attraction

Thanks Buddy for all the help

The point is not about trying to dampen spirits, it is about trying to understand where the problem lies. The problem is all in your mind, your choosing to feel this way. Nobody is forcing you so why take it from anyone isolating you. Whatever the problem is, you have to tell yourself that there isn't one and you aren't alone.

I can't be anyone else, that's not even an option anyways even if I am not much happy with myself.





No thanks, people are interfering and asking me about my love life already without even breaking a barrier.

Breaking the barrier would just make things worse.

Well for your partner's sake, you have to be happy with who you are as it was you that they like. The others you mentioned aren't friends so they can take a hike. Find friends worth keeping.

Yeah, It's pretty easy, just give me a Jinni oil lamp.

Oooh... WP Friend! Oooh Friend!

If I don't welcome you to the forums, don't take it personally. I just can't be bothered.

Your above signatures seems overly cynical, confrontational and emotionally cold? You want to cheer us up? really?

Your premise is a huge contradiction, as is your motive of 'this might help'..... appears at odds with a more subtle intention.....

At least your honest in your own way...

"Nobody said it was easy..."
Not referencing a Coldplay song again.
What about asking your current partner for help with friendships to build with her friends, she will understand if she knows your needs.