Interesting 20/20

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Last Friday 20/20 had several articles on gender differences.
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/

I found the Dr. Brizendine article most interesting.
She stated that differences between the behaviour and thoughts of males and females can be related to how structures in the brain are sized differently between the sexes.

She uses this to explain why guys think about sex every 52 seconds (on average I imagine) and girls are focused on emotions.

She also says that the release of oxytocin is responsible for closeness of relationships between girls.

Also, she has determined that once a mother has given birth, the baby fulfils her sexual needs.

I'm guessing this is why so many married men complain that their wives are too cold in bed. With the baby being born, it seems like the wives don't need the husbands in a sexual way anymore. The wife may still want sex, but she no longer needs it. This is why I'm never having kids.

Why do women keep saying men think about sex every <insert number> seconds? It's just silly. I don't think it's even possible to think about sex that often and still function. It would be like replacing every second full stop in an essay with "OMG SEX!! !!".

First, my view is that it's any thought that is sexual in one way or another.

Second, that n seconds is an average. The frequency varies from guy to guy. Some the outliers my have a sexual thought once a lifetime.

Personally, I would be hard pressed to go 5 minutes. Think of the Washington Monument. If you don't make the fallic connection, you will at least recall that a lot of guys do.

She is delusional (IMO). Did she actually speak to any mothers with babies? I can't be bothered looking at this rubbish (its interfereing with me thinking about sex). I think she must be a lesbian (thinking about sex again).

Yeah, she interviewed mothers. The article list all of the hormonal activities that occur.

She also found that some women approach orgasm while breast feeding.
Could they be considered pedophiles?
(someone grab of fire extiguisher, the flames will be a comin')

I read somewhere that alot of this sex thought from males is subconscious. Having it in our working mind every 52 seconds or whatever is just ridiculous - we would have no concentration. Primal, savage animals perhaps, but not men (hmm...not much difference though).

Actually pretty common among NT adolescents. Have you noticed their lack of concentration?

Really only 52 seconds? I expected somewhere around 25, 40 tops. Maybe these are guys that actually get sex. Virgins think about it more.

maybe(just maybe)....women who have recently had new borns are tired from taking care of the baby every two hours(less sex drive when tired)hormones are all over the place after birth....may effect sex drive,also,some women have sex more for the bonding/touch then for the orgasms(which some dont get becaue some guys dont know what they are doing... some women dont know what to ask for)I just think there are many other factrs then the theory that women dont want more sex because they have achieved the ultimate goal of ..."offspring".....I wish the show had addressed possible differences in female aspies(but that would be unlikely...who cares about those freaks of nature....lol)

The focus seemed to be on emotional and hormonal changes that occur as a result of the having an infant and children involved in their lives.

I can believe that one, as a virgin a guy probably thinks its a way bigger and better thing than it is.

On the thought that men and women are wired differently - very true. If it weren't I don't think 80% of the fights that happen would be over miscommunication and things like that and the divorce rate would probably be a lot lower than it is. Just a shame its politically incorrect to make a call on stuff like that these days.

I dont think the problem is admitting that they are wired "differently" its when the group who has the most power gets to say which wiring is better...that should make sense to most aspies...

Yeah, I understand that people get defensive because they feel that differences (especially those that are inherent by birth) can be weilded against them and I know where they're coming from, the human race has a good track record of acting like doministic monkeys at the worst of times. Still, when you embrace a difference, while you try to keep your honor up and play someone on their own turf you also have to cut through it at points where it would be better off to just get it across and if people have a problem it needs to get a 'pff, so what' response. Truth is we all want better things and better lives for ourselves, the people we love, etc. regardless of it all but if we really want people to understand eachother and have a society that actually rolls with us if we want to make the most of our lives and theirs it can't happen any other way aside from having better communication norms. Political correctness is one thing that while it should be there to a degree it has to be relinquished a bit so people can actually discuss what's up to a point where things are true and where they don't have racist/sexist intentions but would be likely too afraid to say otherwise because someone would quite likely pull a power-card on em. I like the fact that its already starting to happen, my generation at least grew up without a lot of the former problems and we're getting closer to that stage where we're matured enough in all this to take the muzzle off and not have it be a gender/racial equality disaster. Of course I can't fault former generations, they were raised the way they were raised, we were raised the way we were, and society in general is a really slow moving animal. Still, I think we have to be ready to actually have some degree of metacommunication on this in our society because whether its religion or just societal norms all together we still have this major problem of hiding and running from what we really are.