I have a crush on a possible Aspie girl

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First, some info.

The opposite sex is certainly one of my worst subjects, just below math. I feel that, because of my quirks, the pain I've gone through, and other difficulties in my emotional development into manhood, I've been impaired significantly. For example, I used to have a huge crush on a girl in my Latin class. It was more of a physical attraction, given that you'd die of pleasure from simply looking at her. I tried taking it slow, but I couldn't resist being forward. We were constantly flirting. Turns out that she was a habitual pot-smoker who frequently skipped class and went out with practically every boy in school. Dumping her was probably the smartest thing to do. At the same time, there was this other girl in my geometry class last year. About my height and weight, long brown hair, acne (again, like me), pale skin. She has these glasses, like I do; an intellectual. In terms of math grades, she whupped me. It's been rumored that she's an Aspie. She's the Platonic Ideal.

The problem I had with the super-hot girl was that I was focused on the external, that which doesn't matter. I want a true relationship, an emotional bond.

Gave her a drawing today. She asked me if she could keep it. I said yes.

FIN

To quote from themovie "Disturbing Behaviour"... (ignore the title)...

_ Oooh! Appropriate sparks are flying! _

I would guess that her wanting to keep the picture is a good sign.
Otherwise she might have just said "it's nice" and followed that with a (faked) ""Thank you."

Don't get too sure about a 'yes' yet, but I'd say keep thinking about it.. This might be the path to a date!

Maybe a medium sports date, asking her if she'd like to play some tennis?

(and trust yourself on feel and texture. You can just hit the ball around, practice on some volleys, etc., and not necessarily keep score at all, unless it really feels right, once again, trust yourself on that feel and texture)

Now, as far as internal, external, that gets a little tricky. I heard an older couple give a talk that a successful relationship is a combination of lust, liking each other, appreciation for who the person is without preconditions . . . and a couple of other things, sure idealistic, but I was kind of surprised that they just went ahead and listed lust.

I think I've been somewhat blessed in that I tend to be naturally attracted to a wide variety of women. So, the classic beauty, yes, I can be very attracted to a woman like that. But a woman who's a bit of a nerd and who is understated, sometimes that's even more attractive! No guarantee at all that we'll hit it off, but if I make a brief statement, a straightforward understandable friendly overture (sometimes I can be so roundabout!), well, you just never know.

And so, I encourage you to take a deep breath and be open to the idea that physical attractiveness is part of it, too. There is kind of an indefinable chemistry. That in addition to the ping-ponging back and forth of communication, and the building of a relationship.

She keeps running away from me. My friend told me that she feels like someone's spying on her, watching her every move. Paranoia. I asked her a few questions, examined her behavior using my knowledge of psychoanalysis, but I'm no stalker. She strikes me somewhat as a neurotic.

She's really hesitant about starting relationships. I've tried talking to her, but she keeps running away, or ducking behind her friends.

Recently, this one girl told me that the Aspie girl in question, when asked about me, blushed and told her to shut up. I've also noticed my crush smiling when she ducks behind someone. She's hiding it.

Good for you man, I wish you two the most happiness this rock can muster!!

She doesn't want anything to do with me. My parents said I should just go on with my life and focus on getting extremely high grades instead. I feel like I've been told to go back to my room and jerk off. Apparently, my parents think that's better than starting a relationship. I think they want me to be a virgin.

She's terrified by me. She won't talk to me. She even yelled at me to go away. The only line of communication between Rachel and I is through one of her friends, the one who said she wants nothing to do with me. But whenever she runs for cover, Rachel smiles. Then again, I saw her sobbing her eyes out one morning.

what you need to do now is start ignoring her and go about your usual business.

Depending on what she does after that will tell you if she likes you or not.

Yea, just let it go. Even if she's an aspie, girls don't like creepers or stalkers regardless of mental, developmental or personal predisposition.

You know the world's gonna end in a couple of years, right?