Need some advice

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I'm dating an aspie, and I am an aspie myself we get along so well but i'm confused about the "next" level. I didn't even know I was dating until I was told it's official, I felt foolish yet happy at the same time. Were not rushing anything, we have had a couple of movie nights, dinners and kisses :p I just want to know after nearly 4 months what i'm to expect next

Regards,
Nashira

Well, you have to ask yourself what you want. There are no rules here, other than your and your partner's wishes. What kind of intimacy you want? How do you like to spend time with this person?

Seriously, there are no rules. Some people start kissing after four months and others are already married by that time. (Extremes, I know, but... no rules here).

You shouldn't be asking this to random strangers on a forum, you should be asking the person you are having the relationship with. It's up to you two. There are no rules about what the next level entails, enjoy yourself!

Some people like sex.

Yup, but that's really up to them, not us.

next level = cuddling. seriously, do it.

then cuddling + kissing (my favorite )

these 2 'activities' are more intimate, but not super overly sexual in nature. the second one can be pretty epic in that regard, actually, depending on kissing prowess.

are you a good kisser, would you say? kissing especially well / making out is a good way to go to the 'next level'. my ultimate kissing technique is as follows:

1.) make sure their mouth is slightly open.
2.) use both of your lips to clasp down on their bottom lip.
3.) apply suction to their bottom lip (more = better, for the most part, but if you get too pro at it you can actually hurt them so be careful and have them tell you if it hurts XD).
4.) use your tongue to softly lick the inside of their bottom lip, just a lil bit.

also, some people really like having their bottom lip bitten (NOT HARD, OBVIOUSLY lol).

the 'next level' is fun, but make sure you are both ready for it, and dont go TOO fast. also make sure its not the centerpiece of your relationship or it will devolve / corrode it very fast. i'd also make sure you dont go too fast in one night. make the progression very slow. like

kissing

cuddling + kissing

cuddling + kissing + touching (over clothes)

cuddling + kissing + touching (under clothes)

(dont want to elaborate because im not entirely sure what the rules around this is XD)

I never really thought about it that way before. I am happy with my relationship the way it is and I just hope he is too. It can be hard to tell since we both have AS, I guess I better go ask him what he wants instead of asking here.

Thanks for the help and advice

That was very helpful, I think I might go buy a book also to help me.