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08 Dec 2011, 10:58 am

Something i have been curious about since i joined this site. Why, especially with those participating in this thread of Love and Date, are there so many wanting to find a partner or even experience their first ever date but do not have their location on their profile. I would have thought by disclosing our location it might encourage those who live in a similar proximity to make contact via messages.

Is there a reason people are not putting in location other than privacy?

Would it increase communications with people closer to our own locations if we did disclose?

I think i would be more inclind to make contact with those closer to where i am, anyone else feel the same?



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08 Dec 2011, 11:04 am

Welcome, and good question! I do it out of privacy (I have minor children so I'm a bit skewed there) and because I come here for introspection and insight, not so much for dating possibilities. You're right, though, people who are unencumbered and are coming here for contacts should disclose!



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08 Dec 2011, 11:11 am

Theres a great sticky at the top of this section(Elegible odd bobs thread http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts62-start2595.html) where people that are looking for a partner can disclose their location/interest/a picture/a small description/what they are looking for... so you might wanna have a look there

There are also some meetup threads ( heres the main one but there are several around the social skills section http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts41284-start720.html).

That should give you a fair chance of finding some people around your area, however keep in mind that most people at the social skills thread are looking for friendships rather than a relationship(apparently there have been some confussions about this in the past)


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08 Dec 2011, 11:11 am

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Welcome, and good question! I do it out of privacy (I have minor children so I'm a bit skewed there) and because I come here for introspection and insight, not so much for dating possibilities. You're right, though, people who are unencumbered and are coming here for contacts should disclose!


Yeh i can understand the privacy issues and protection of children and also if people are not actually looking to date. I just think state and country would surfice for those that are looking for someone. Just saw i only have country so i must add to that lol



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08 Dec 2011, 11:14 am

Some don't give their location because they are trying to show they are funny or creative or make a statement by saying something else in that spot. I use that approach but I also mention my general area; I don't say my town because it's very small & some people less than an hour away haven't heard of it so I just say say south Louisiana. I am very willing to relocate so I think mine is fitting


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08 Dec 2011, 11:16 am

spongy wrote:
Theres a great sticky at the top of this section(Elegible odd bobs thread http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts62-start2595.html) where people that are looking for a partner can disclose their location/interest/a picture/a small description/what they are looking for... so you might wanna have a look there

There are also some meetup threads ( heres the main one but there are several around the social skills section http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts41284-start720.html).

That should give you a fair chance of finding some people around your area, however keep in mind that most people at the social skills thread are looking for friendships rather than a relationship(apparently there have been some confussions about this in the past)


Thanks for that. I had looked at the eligible oddbods thread but there are over 2000 post and i neither had the time or inclination to sift through them. I understand not all are looking for relationships, though i have seen many implying that they do, hence my post. Just thought it might help.



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08 Dec 2011, 3:36 pm

girls/boys hit me up, if your anywhere near northern california.

*you must be good looking however

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08 Dec 2011, 9:58 pm

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Some don't give their location because they are trying to show they are funny or creative or make a statement by saying something else in that spot. I use that approach but I also mention my general area; I don't say my town because it's very small & some people less than an hour away haven't heard of it so I just say say south Louisiana. I am very willing to relocate so I think mine is fitting


I think your locations is very apt with being willing to relocate.



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08 Dec 2011, 10:53 pm

People hoping to meet someone on here do disclose their location. I have mine on my profile, but it's not specific to the state. I must stay in California, but have no issue with relocating within the state itself.

Where in California I live is something many here on WP know.


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25 Dec 2011, 12:50 am

Is there a sort feature here, so you can find people by location?



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25 Dec 2011, 1:51 am

vivdiva wrote:
Is there a sort feature here, so you can find people by location?

No. This site is not set up where we can search members


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25 Dec 2011, 2:12 am

i am not single but where i live i am geographically isolated. i am seeing the one other member in my local. :)


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25 Dec 2011, 2:59 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
People hoping to meet someone on here do disclose their location. I have mine on my profile, but it's not specific to the state. I must stay in California, but have no issue with relocating within the state itself.

Where in California I live is something many here on WP know.


Whys that? Did you Pimp Slap a judge or something? (really just curious because CA is like the size of 5 other states geographically so it seems odd to me)


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