Real Life or Online relationship

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Seriously peeps, your vote?

I would like to hear experiences and opinions of both sides.

Imho tho online long distance relationship is yuck unless of course you just use the interent as preliminary and you turn your relationship into RL state. Chat only relationship is what don't understand. Dudes, you like missing the whole point of the relationship. Kiss, date, (sex), cuddle, living together maybe, IDK it's just pointless IMO to have a long distance online relationship. Also the internet is a dangerous place and who knows if you'll be taken advantage of. And then people come with this: well since we can't a girl (or a guy) IRL then you turn to the internet. Still, it's not the solution. Online relationships rarely lead to something... I mean in most cases you don't even meet the other person. How sad

On-line relationships are stupid in my opinion.

That and they are unnatural.. I don't do dating and especially not getting romatically involved with people I've never met. I did 10 years ago, but was still a kid.

Online relationships can turn into real life ones. They're not all bad.

Real life

Online relationships are not my first choice, but when there is nobody in your area that you connect with, you might have to step out of your comfort zone.

Plus it seems like the ones I connect with are glued to their computers, which results in me being glued to mine.

this is an interesting question... i am in an online relationship.

for me, it kind of depends on how i feel about an individual, which is less important than where he is located. if i become very interested in a person, he could be close or far away, and i would not exclude a person based on distance. it's possible to make it work in-person even if it started off on the internet - people do move all the time.

i had real-life opportunities in front of me, but i didn't feel about those people like i feel about my boyfriend. i chose a more difficult path than simply defaulting to someone within reach but the reward is worth it... i get to be with HIM.

in some ways, it worked better to have an online relationship than in-person at the moment. although i am separated from my former husband in terms of any form of relationship, i will live in the same house as him (separate rooms etc.) for the next year or so. this will allow us to provide stability for our almost-adult daughter while she finishes high school and helps us to save up for her education. a real-life relationship would be somewhat disruptive to the household dynamic i am maintaining. i feel a lot less pressure this way.

this relationship doesn't feel any less important than an in-person one, and i feel strong emotions even though he is far away. it is hard that i can't touch him, but it won't be like that forever. this is just a step - the plan is to have more than just an online relationship. i hope to be together with him in real life at some future date.

I think that online relationships can work out, when they translate into real life. You're just going through the initial getting to know each other stage online, instead of in Pizza Hut or the cinema. In some ways this could be quite freeing, especially for aspies or people who find social situations and conversation difficult.

I'm not sure about the purpose of an online relationship where there is no intention to ever meet. This seems more like friendship to me, albeit an intense kind. But how many people have relationships like that? Don't most people intend to meet at some point?

If the person was really spectacular, and the attraction sufficiently mutual, then an online relationship might work - but only as a prelude to a RL one, which would inevitably require one of the parties to move, so I think they should be approached with caution, if possible...

OTOH I'd rather fail spectacularly with someone amazing than succeed well with someone mediocre (for me/her).

that's it, right there^^^^

Just saying, it does happen. They met on his company's chat board, where customers could post. They got to know each other online, after a year and half of this, they finally met in person. He was on west coast, she was on east coast.

She moved to the west coast to live with him. I was very skeptical at first but a year later, they recently got married. They are well suited to one another and yes, in love.

But well from what I have read and heard about, if you cannot move it to Real Life, it gets old fast.....

But the title says "Real life OR Online Relationships". If when I suggested we meet up, you were to say "No thankyou, I'd prefer this to stay online", I'd have been gutted.

So I'll say real life relationships are far superior. It's all very well having Skype etc, and it's certainly helpful, I don't doubt that, but it's just not the same as being able to cuddle up to your loved one and experience them in the flesh and smell their aroma etc. I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation. For me there is just some higher level of happiness when I am properly with my partner.

Man, I hope I'm not the only one who just stopped respecting you.

I have no preference but 2 of the 3 friendships I've had in my life were online.

The key factor here is just how often would you be able to meet in real life. If you are in an online relationship but can only meet once a year, then it is very likely one person will just tire of the other with simply talking all the time and not doing any real life activities (I don't mean THAT, perverts ). But say, perhaps every few months one of the people has the ability to go over to the other person's house and stay there for a week, and this is while working at getting a better paying job so they can visit more, and then eventually live together a year or a few from now. If that was the case then perhaps starting online and talking with webcams and so on might be better, because then you initially get to know each other through talking first, instead of just jumping into sex and believing you are in love.

let's just have no relationships.

I agree with this. I highly doubt I'd ever have plucked up the courage to ask my girlfriend out at all, or even talk to her, if we hadn't firstly gotten to know eachother online as friends. After spending a couple of months Skyping eachother, when we finally met I felt so comfortable with her. I'd never even had a friend who was female before, nevermind an actual girlfriend. It was so much better for me to get to know her first, then date, then to date, then get to know her. I wouldn't have managed that way round.

Very true I do think real life are superior and I voted for it in the poll.
I just think that starting off online is nothing to scoff at.