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But can anybody here tell me how you can tell if a man finds you attractive?

I have a terrible time meeting partners (sexual or life) as I cannot read the signals that men send out when they are attracted to someone. I really need them to tell me straight but most men will not do this. I am tired of being lonely and would like to meet someone one day but cannot go out and flirt because of my inability to read people in that way.

I have tried looking at body language books and it did not help. I mean for example, it says that if a man likes what he is looking at his pupils will dilate...but they will also dilate if the light is dim...so how do you know which it is?

I asked my mum when I was 16 and she was not much help either. She replied with "you just know". Errrr how exactly? to which she replied "you read their body language". GREAT!

I am 36 now and I still can't figure it out

Any tips anyone can give on working out this stuff would really help. Are there any classes I can go to that teach this stuff?

I am feeling very lonely tonight

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Maybe a matchmaker service?

try noticing if anyone is specificaly kind to you... also if you can realy relate to someone you meet it could be something... thats my ten cents

I can't tell the difference between 'just being polite' and 'interested'. So I end up assuming everybody is just being polite. So I don't even know.

I agree with this, perhaps even a community class or local group. A place where you could build familiarity and comfort, that way you could gradually disclose certain traits and find people that are accepting of your quirks rather than trying to sell yourself and prove to someone that you are their soul mate in five minutes.