It's nearly impossible to meet the right person these days

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I'm richard, 37 and got apsergers syndrome, I was diagnosed in 1998. I've always treated girlfriends like princesses and loved them, not been too clingy but definately loving. I have to say it's virtually impossible these days to find the right person. I'm happy with life, I smile all the time, act silly and have a laugh, but I think if other people with aspergers are like me, then it must be in general, near impossibly for us to find love. One thing's for sure, if you haven't got the looks you're sh*t out of luck.

I look weird/scary and I've attracted the most beautiful girls. Not being a whiny loser helps in this regard. Having a huge swinging cock is helpful, not necessary, but believing you have a huge swinging cock is absolutely requisite.

What does this mean, "THE RIGHT PERSON"?
It's easy to find someone to have some fun with.

I agree with most of that, though I do think there are people who try too hard and I think you are trying too hard and being critical of yourself. I get the whole treating them well but that isn't good since you'd be taken for a fool when you have the wrong type of girlfriends.
Also the whole act silly and have a laugh thing which I do too, that looks immature with some people a.k.a. NTs. Hence they won't want a partner who is a child still. It's how they think.

Me acting silly and being a great guy means nothing these days, it's all about looks, nothing more. I've been called perv, weirdo and minger by girls when all i've done is said hello to them and been friendly. The fact is, my only chance of ever meeting a girl I can love my whole life is by trying on dating sites and social networking sites and so far i've been single 11 years without a kiss, cuddle or anything. It shows how shallow people are these days that they won't give you a chance unless they think you're good looking.

It's totally not about looks. It's about self-image. You can change that.

Nah it's about looks, if you're not good enough looking then girls won't give you a chance, at least that's what i've experienced anyway.

idk about it being about looks. Ive been told i look great by many yet have issues with women left and right.

I look weird and scary. I definitely look worse than most people. But I believe(d) I'm beautiful so beautiful girls loved me. See how that works? You have a loser attitude, djteknovibe. That's not hot.

I have the same problem with not being able to meet the right person. However, like fraac, I don't have a problem with attracting good looking women because I'm no longer complaining about things out of my control. I also believe I have a huge swinging cock, because it turns out I do. That girl who told me that, god bless her.

I've found that most people from my age group are shallow. There are enough people that aren't shallow, but it's difficult enough for me to meet people, not so much because of Asperger's, but because of who I am. Hard to explain. It's not that women are evil or anything stupid like that, it's that the superficiality is reinforced in almost every corner of popular culture. Men are no better than women in this regard, although as far as the type of person I am, guys are more likely to understand me, but hey. Guys are more straightforward as it is, so no big surprise there. Most people I've met have a difficult time separating fantasy from reality, needs from wants, dreams from aspirations, left from right, etc. That's really all I ask, but that's too much apparently. I've been told to lower my standards (????) even though my standards aren't a big Christmas list like with most people. My choice, my life.

I had a huge swinging cock for Christmas.

You have quite an empty bedroom for a swinging cock?
Errr... Back to the issue at hand I think that not all women go for looks but that is sometimes a necessity.

Erm.. That's a throbbing hen.

Well, if you're ugly, you can get in a very fulfilling relationship with a similarly rated woman.

I've been told I'm good-looking several times. When I went on stage one time in a performance, the girls at my college squealed (is that what you call it?).
But, since I'm shy, aloof, quiet, and awkward, I've never had a girlfriend.
Sure, it has a lot to do with looks. No argument there. Looks aren't the only thing.
Girls expect a confident man who takes the initiative to ask the girl out, etc.